I do not know how to talk to the Dr. so I will just talk and who ever answers or replies, does so. I need someone to talk to before I have to go to a doctor. (MY husband and I are young parents. I am 17 and he is 18) Well, last Thursday my Step Sister-in-law (which is 15) told me about what had been going on between her and my husband before we were married and what he had asked her to do while we were married. A few weeks before prom (on May 14th) He had asked her to pull down her pants but she refused to because of her boyfriend she has been with for a couple months now. My husband confessed to it after I asked him if he wanted a devorce. (I won't tollerate that) He also confessed to me that when I was pregnant with our son and his family went to Dallas that a couple nights before they went she sucked his [censored]!!!! I would get these strong feelings anytime that he would cheat on me or something was wrong and he would always tell me that I was paranoid. Later on I would always find out that everyone of my feelings were true. Last night I laid in the bed crying because I do not know what to do. He said that he was sorry and that it would never happen again but I feel discusted. I do not even like to get naked in front of him because of what I found out. I love him so much and I want to be with him forever but it is so hard to just let go and forget. How can I be happy? He asked me what he could do to prove that he wanted our marriage to work and I told him that he needed to get counseling about his obsession with the female body. I feel like it was my fault that he has tried to look other places for sexual pleasures because I haven't really wanted to have sex ever since I gave birth and this recent finding just makes it worse. I know that we can make it but I do not know how. Please help me get through this. Anyone....<p>[This message has been edited by Fritze (edited June 05, 2000).]

<small>[ January 27, 2005, 07:14 PM: Message edited by: hanora ]</small>

You should read "HIS NEEDS HER NEEDS Building an affair proof marriage" By: Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr.<BR>It's very insightful and might help save your marriage.<P>

You probably wont like my answer much, but I truely believe that if they cheat once they will do it again. I would not tolerate it and get the hell out of that situation. My H and I have been married 12 years and I made it very clear in the beginning of our marriage that I would not give 2nd chances for cheating or abuse. We both argeed to tell the other if we ever became interested in looking elsewhere. I would be devasted if I ever found out he cheated, but I really dont think he has. If this is a young girl you were speaking of, I would definetly tell her parents what happened, she may be traumatized. If your baby is a girl I would demand the courts make him get counseling before your daughter is old enough for you to have to worry about. Best of luck to you!