Can you believe, I find out that the divorce has been filed on 6/26. I never say anything to my daughter at all. Last night I am told that H arranged for D to go to his parents earlier because he filed and did not want me to take it out on her when I found out. Still putting her in the middle and sounds like he was trying to instill some fear or distrust of me in her.

So I messaged his pager, quote: I knew about filing, I never told D, just heard you told D & had her leve here, have witness will go to court stop putting her in middle.

This is her vacation week with H.

Then I called D, only to get her voicemail & left her msg: I have known about the divorce being filed but did not want you to get upset, want you to enjoy your week, just want you to know that I am ok, you have a great week. (D didn't get this message until much later)

H calls D to find out who she told, D calls a friend and wants to know if he told me. Friend calls me and says I am getting him in trouble and wants to know who told me about it. I am not disclosing who told me anything.

H has left me 3 messages so far:
1 says I am not going to be served while she is away (so I messaged him back and told him the filing was done 6/26/02)
2 he says he didn't know, his attorney was not supposed to file until this week or next week and that it is not a conspiracy, (BULL)
3 he messages again this morning, same thing that he did not know it was filed last week (Attorney's don't work that way)

I go on instant messenger last night, after the first two messages to H. D is on line, I tell her hello and ask her if she got my voicemail, she didn't know anything about it. When I left the voicemail, H must have been talking to her already, that fast, so she listens to the voicemail, tells me it was not her place to tell me about it, told her that was no problem, I just don't want her in the middle of anything and repeated that I just want her to have good relationships with everybody, I don't want her to worry I am doing ok. Apparently he is using D to get information on me.

Now, how could D when she did not get my voice mail, call her friend to find out if they had told me this, that's because H called her, puts her in the middle again. I don't say anything negative about H to her, I almost say nothing at all about him to D.

My last message to H last night was: D found out from you tonight that I knew, not from me.

& H is telling people that he filed because D wants it, he always has to place the responsibility on someone else. Plus he is mad because I called the courthouse and found out for myself. Which means that he had to talk to D again last night because she was the only one who asked me how I found out and I just told her "public records".

Am I nuts? What do you think? I don't want her in the middle of this, I am trying to stay very neutral and supportive of her having two loving parents.

Well this gets better and better, I forgot to get the case # last week so I called the courthouse back for it, our courthouse has just put in a new computer program and when I called Family Services for the Divorce filing, the gentlemen who looked it up apparently did not know how to read it and come to find out he gave me a case on my husband for small claims instead. The divorce papers have not arrived there yet! This makes even less sense to me now, why go thru the exercise he did last week with her and his mom when it had not been filed. What is he trying to do? This looks even worse on him. Can anyone make any sense of this?? Why keep putting her in the middle, is he still trying to control me thru her? or irritate me. Should I just keep documenting this and take it to the judge??