Well, it looks like it is time for me to post and update since I see an old post of mine surfaced this weekend and caused some confusion.

My husband and I have reconciled and recovery is going quite well. We have been back together now for 3 months and everyday, it is getting better.

When, my husband first moved back home, my emotions definitely were not what I expected. I thought I would be happy that we finally made it through the hell of the past year and that he was home so we could move on and grow. Boy was I surprised when I found myself so angry at him, even more so than when he was gone. I also got so used to him being gone that I felt like him being home was invading my space. I mean, it was just me and the kids for 7 ½ months and we had a great routine and were getting along just fine and now me and the kids had to readjust to daddy being home. It was more awkward that I thought it was going to be but it has been well worth the adjustment.

I still struggle with some of my anger from time to time but our marriage is definitely getting stronger every day. Most of my anger stems from my H moving home and acting like the past year never happened. I saw us getting into the same rut as before and it would just make me so mad that we had wasted 7 ½ months of our lives and the kids’ lives and nothing had changed. Which would then make me question why did he have to leave, why did the kids have to go through this and why did this whole mess have to cost us our entire savings account. He and I have talked several times about why I am still angry about certain things and he does understand now and we are working on my little triggers.

This MB stuff really does work and it has made my marriage one that has a more open line of communication, more admiration, a lot more recreational companionship and a healthier family environment. Oh and the SF is great too!

I hope with all I have learned here and am still learning, I can start helping others out. Thanks again for everyone’s support. I don’t know where I would be without all of you.

Michele

I about dropped a brick when I read that post this morning before I realized it was a year old. First, I would of expected notice if y'all had troubles and second I saw that waiting-for-her posted.

As I read through things it really gave me quite a chuckle.

I know it sometimes hurts to revisit old posts but look at where y'all are at right now. I know that learning the art of patience was a hard lesson for you but you truly have been delivered from despair.

Y'all are in my prayers and it's nice to know you're still lurking about.

LH -

It was some interesting reading to see that post a year later. It's funny because back then, as you know, I thought the world was ending and that I would never make it through what was about to happen to me and the kids emotionally. It just goes to show you, me and everyone out there that time and patience is very important.

Well, I guess I am another success story and proof positive that it can and does get better. Even if my H and I hadn't reconciled, I was getting along just great and was actually very happy and had already accepted being a single mom of three beautiful children. I must say I am happy that it has turned out that my H moved home and we are rebuilding TOGETHER.

For those struggling to rebuild, there is always hope but it takes a lot of time, patience and sometimes a lot of change but it can be done. Just remain positive and expect nothing. That was always the hardest part for me was expecting nothing in return.

Michele

Thats great news on you reconciling. I posted a message in other post and relizing it was a old thread I removed it.

I said in the post that you were very attractive and nice looking. I also said there was something that had your husbands emotions, but in looking at some other post you said he had childhood issues he had to deal with through counseling.

More than anything from you ordeal, I'm amazed at some of the Betrayed Spouses here are very nice looking people and they beat themselves up thinking they are so Ugly as the WS's try to make them out to be or feel....The rejection makes you feel this way....

So anyone out there, you may be a very nice looking person, don't be so hard on yourself thinking you're worthless.

Hi Michele ...

Gosh, I haven't been on the site for weeks maybe even months! But I was so surprised to see you'd written! So, I opened it as my first post in ages... WOW, what a wonderful surprise. My heart and stomach felt like it had butterflies in it! I'm so thrilled for you after knowing all the agony you've been through!!!

Just wanted you to know that I'm grateful for the update. Keep doing the hard work and keep "growing" as this is the ONLY way things will change for the better as you two rebuild your marriage!

Take care!

Nicole

EC - Thanks for the positive post. I am very happy about the reconciliation. Recovery is a lot of work but well worth it.

OvrCs - It is so great to hear from you. I have been thinking about you a lot an hope all is going well for you and the boys.

You were definitely one of my strengths through all of my trials over the past year. Thanks for checking in on me.

Michele

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh and the SF is great too! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have not had sex in 191 days. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Would you mind dedicating your next great SF to me? Pretty please?

E

<small>[ July 03, 2002, 05:06 AM: Message edited by: justthewife ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by justthewife:
<strong>[QUOTE]I have not had sex in 191 days.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ROOKIE......

320 days and counting, if anyone is counting, well I guess I am, so nevermind.

Bill

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LostHusband:
<strong>ROOKIE......

320 days and counting, if anyone is counting, well I guess I am, so nevermind.

Bill</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'd offer to dedicate MY next great SF to you, but I think it might cause problems if I yelled out, "Here's to you Bill!" at any time during SF with my BF who is incidentally NOT named Bill.

Hang in there. It'll be like the first time again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I'm the one that asked for the dedication, there shouldn't be a problem if you yelled out "This ones for you Elizabeth!" would there?

He probably wouldn't even notice....

E

Hi there sballplayer!!!!!

I was thinking of you recently, and here you are telling us of your wonderful success. I am so pleased for you!

I want to know how that person dragged up your thread from a year ago. I can't seem to find mine...and I want to, to see what I was like then, compared to now. I think it would be really interesting.

Anyway, I am so glad that you checked in with us!!!

Love and light,

Jacky

Well for LH & JustTheWife Inc. - I can actually give both of you a "shout out", pun intended, during my next SF session without a problem. My husband's name is Billy so I would be okay yelling that name out and if I screamed out a women's name during SF, he would be even more turned on. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by justthewife:
<strong>He probably wouldn't even notice...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">He'd notice. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

He's attentive like that. Usually.

My sister taught me long ago to NEVER call your lover by name, use "sweetie" or "honey" or something. Then you never slip. ;p

I'll be "Oh baby, oh baby" next time you do it Princess.

And for you Michele, tell Billy I'm the hot checker at the grocery store.....

SF vicariously thru MB. I wonder if the Harleys ever planned for this one? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

E