Hello Everyone -
Had good and bad days this weekend. Thursday was my B-Day and guess in the back of my mind I thought that WH would call and at least wish me a Happy B-Day. Didn't happen, so just proves my point that he is only thinking about himself still. He hasn't talked to the kids since last Thur. and won't see S until Tues. this week. I can't imagine not having any contact with my kids for that long if I was in the same city as them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> My MIL actually called on Friday. I let it go to Voice Mail. Haven't talked to her since this whole thing started. Figure that if WH wants the kids to seem them that he will arrange that during his time with them. She just called to wish me Happy B-Day a day late. Struggled all day but D&S and I went to fireworks in the evening and was very enjoyable. They also bought me the most touching card about how I was a supportive Mother and they were lucky to have me, etc... Of course this made me cry, but made me realize that maybe they are seeing their Father for who he is. I made a promise to myself from the beginning of this that I would not bad mouth him to anyone else and especially to them. Was afraid that if I talked to MIL that I would do just that and I know that it would make me look bad. Don't want that.

Got the car washed and waxed on Friday. Yesterday I cleaned up in the basement and added to the pile of stuff that WH needs to go through and decide what he wants to do with. (Keep, toss, or garage sale). This will be extremely hard for him as he never throws anything away. Don't know if it's for sentimental reasons or just because he is too lazy. I would guess the later of the two LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Went through a bunch of paperwork and pulled out some stuff to use on Tues. when STBXH comes over so that we can go over financial stuff. Picked up an application for a part-time job at the grocery and called a GF who is going through this for the 2nd time in her short life.

Got up early today and cleaned up the camper so that we can sell it. Think this bothered S some as he always enjoyed camping. Still plan on camping next year, just in tents instead. Would have gone a couple of times this year but with the fires and all thought it would be better to just sit tight.

Over all I guess I had more good than bad but just start thinking when you have more time on your hands. Try to keep busy but there is only so much that you can do. I am actually looking forward to going back to work tomm. I love my job so that helps and work in a small office so they are a lot like family to me. They have all been very supportive through this and they don't even know the full story. (WH had A). Hope everyone else had a relatively good weekend and take care of yourselves. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Well, I probably don't have anything good to say here - except I know how the weekends/holidays are especially hard.

And also, Happy Birthday!

-dmw

Thanks DMW for the B-Day wishes.

Got through Mothers and Fathers Day o.k. Hopefully I will have a better grip on things by the time that Thanksgiving and Xmas roll around. Just working on the parenting plan for S's visitation for the holidays. We will probably go over that on Tues. as well.

Anxious to hear what he has to say about not calling on my B-Day. His was in March and I had dinner, cake and gift for him the weekend before and then he spent lunch and dinner his B-Day with OW. That was a real kick in the teeth. I'm sure he will have some excuse for me. He was getting really good at that the last couple of years. My response will be Whatever!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hi Is This A Bad Dream,
A belated Happy Birthday, hope you had a nice one. My son's was this past Sunday.
The Holidays are usually hard to get through.
Thanksgiving was hard for me... WW came back during Xmas... it was short lived... so I know how you feel.
It is hard to stay busy all day everyday during the long holidays.
I had my kids and a few friends over, so that helped.
I hope it gets easier with time.
Stay Strong!
Wallace

<small>[ July 08, 2002, 11:09 AM: Message edited by: Wallace ]</small>

I definately know how you feel. I have just started my journey. My H and I separated the Friday before Fathers Day. He had to move due to military reassignment and he is 9 hours away. I work for the school district and am off for the whole summer, boring. I have nothing to do but think about everything that is going on in my life. Next week is our anniversary, 7/25, we will have been married 12 years, that is going to be a difficult day. Our divorce is not for one particular thing, he has had several A's, and our relationship has deteriorated more after each one, so that is probably what ultimately brought us to this point. He is in contact with another woman lately, but says it is just a friend, see my post on "Do close friendships count as cheating". Anyway, time can be your enemy when going through something like this, but I keep my faith in God and He sustains me. I will pray for you, and you for me okay? God Bless.