My wife filed for divorce 12/01 with grounds of "Cruel and Inhuman Treatment". I contested this because number one, I feel she made this decision too early in our conflict while her stress level was very high, and number two, I know I never treated her cruel and inhumanly and I was not about to let this be said of me.
A lot of relationships end because the problem is never clearly identified. TIME is needed to step back and educate yourself about the situation your in. I don't mean to force her to stay married to me but I do know that it was to soon to end this with divorce. I suggested settling for a legal seperation, to avoid the hassle and cost of a trail, but she wouldn't do that. So a week later at the trial the judge denied her request for divorce based on insufficient grounds. Divorce is only a last resort to solving your problems, after all other roads have been taken. I don't feel that she has put her heart into saving this marriage because she is going through a lot and I know she is overstressed. Plan B is tough on my small ego and my pride, but I know what type of relationship is waiting if we can work it out and the value of that is worth the work.
I Love You Annette!!