I am a male and am in the middle of a divorce that my wife initiated. She wants full custody. I am asking for 50/50 joint custody, (equal time). How many men out there have gotten custody of there children?

I have full custody. I had a very good lawyer and my ex wife made some really stupid mistakes like moving out of the house before a custody order was made. You have a tough road ahead of you. I hope you get joint custody.

T1

I have full custody under temporay orders, and it will more than likely stay that way unless I do something really stupid.
My WW left our household as well.
Stay Strong!
Wallace

A lot of this depends on your state laws as well as your level of involvement prior to the divorce. Personally, I have just about 50/50 legally but I track the time and I truly have more than 50/50. But, had I not settled outside of court then my likelyhood of getting shared custody would of probably been very little. My options were basically either settle or fight for full custody.

You see a lot of court systems believe that "shared" custody requires a very special relationship between the X's. Therefore if you can't agree on having "shared" custody they figure that y'all can't get along and won't award it.

The thing that I would do is to research your judge and your laws. Then you can make a more informed decision.

Best of Luck!!!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by STV:
<strong>I am a male and am in the middle of a divorce that my wife initiated. She wants full custody. I am asking for 50/50 joint custody, (equal time). How many men out there have gotten custody of there children?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You can get joint custody all you want...but, do you want it to get out of paying child support? In my state, you can have joint custody, you can even claim one of your children on your income tax, but, if you're not the custodial parent, you're still going to have to pay.

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husband got joint but Im the primary care giver. X has yet to phone our son, left home last year. X can see son on his weekends, X only picks him up on Sundays. our 13 yr old told dad he wants to be with him on sunday only, not fri to sun. When our son calls X to say not to pick him up because he has other plans dad never calls back to ask why. sunday together is putting son on computer to play games while X watches Tv. joint means doing things with your child being part of their life not just being a babysitter. X ask for joint because he thinks he won something, there are no winners in D, X still has to pay child support & medical. MOW keep X busy these days. Im happy with that it gives me more time to spend with my son. MOW H got custody 2 weeks out of the month with his 3 boys, of couse it helped to have my D papers about her personal relationship with my H for the breakup of our M on it. She only got $200 a month child support for all 3. You will have to be able to work with X. think of the children 1st. Listen to what your children says & be part of their lives. they need both parents.

m-17 yrs 9 mts
h-42 w-48
C-13, 28, 7 gr
D-5-23-02

MOW-29 yrs
C-3 under 10
D- needs to be signed by J
M-10 yrs.

X and I have joint custody, but the kids live with me and she pays me CS. She conviently works 12 hr shift so she is either working or too tired to take the kids.

Like tonite, she was supposed to take the kids, but just up and left my son's baseball game, never said a word to me.

When we were leaving, I asked my son what was going on and he said he was coming home tonite.
Good thing my plans were flexible.

I live in Michigan. I am looking at joint physical and leagal custody that is divided equally between parents. I think the kids need both of us in there lives. I have been very involved with them. I have coached their softball team for 5 years. I coached their basketball team last year. I attend all of the hockey and soccer games. I take them fishing, I've gone roller skating wiht them, (I was the only adult there, I didn't know that people just droped there kids off at the rink.) I help them with homework and take them to the dentist and doctor as needed. As far as money goes I am making a proposal that if she owes me any child support at the end of the year she only will be required to pay half of it. For me it is not a money issue however for her it is. She needs me to pay her child support so she can buy a house and I will loose mine. She left the house with my kids the Friday after mothers day. I have been left with all the bills except for a car payment and only get to see my girls once in a while. I'm having a very hard time with this and I am glad to hear some guys get what they want when it comes to the kids.