About 10 minutes ago I got an e-mail from the wife of my ex wifes xOM. Her OM recently gave my ex wife the boot and went back home to his wife. This whole crazy eposide has been going on for more than 2 years. Anyway she wants to meet with me. We have talked twice before but never in person. She says she has a lot of unanswered questions and that she would like to meet with me. So much time has gone by. Has anybody met with the other BS? I am not sure what to tell her. I get the feeling that I know a lot more of the details of our WS's former relationship than she does. How much details do I give? They are trying to reconcile. This e-mail has really taken me by surprise. I think I will meet with her. It's the least I can do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

T1

If you do meet with the other BS, I hope you will encourage her in her efforts at reconciliation. Tell her about the Marriage Builders web site and Harley's books. Avoid the urge to commiserate by sharing nitty gritty details that may torment her and delay recovery.

I would have a hard time encouraging her to reconcile with that man. Anyway I did not even have too. After I got offline I gave her a call and she asked if we could meet today. I was free and we met at the park. She said that she made a huge mistake in letting him come back home. She says that there has been some e-mail contact between her husband and my ex wife. She installed spyware in the computer. She knew that I had aquired quite a bit of info on my ex wife and OM to use in divorce proceedings against her if it came to that. She asked if she could have that info and asked for the name of the lawyer that I used. I told her I had all that info in a safety deposit box and I would give it to her. I warned her the contents were not pretty. She said she can handle about anything at this point.

When I first saw this woman I did a double take. She is so beautiful. I could not understand how any man could leave her for my ex wife. My ex wife is pretty and all but she has nothing on this woman. I felt so sorry for her. She is just so sad and you can tell her spirit is broken. I told her about this place but she says she is not into message boards and chatting. We talked for over 5 hours. I hope she feels better now that she has gotten all this stuff she was feeling out. I am going to meet her again on Monday to give her the info. This has been a very emotionally draining day.

T1

T1,
If you are not trying to reconcile with your x, there is probably no harm, if you are, then stay away.

I talked to my x's om wife at the time and we got to running our prospective spouses down to each other. They next day, my x, we were still married at the time, called and really let me have it, getting in a few cheap shots along the way.

Apparently the other woman must have called her husband(living with my wife at the time)immediately after we talked and told him everything I said. She must have been trying to poison her husband's mind about my x and he in turn turned around and told my x.

I called her om's wife and asked what was going on, but that was the last I ever talked to her.

So watch your step, know your reasons for doing what you are doing.

Bob

There are absolutely no plans to reconcile on my part. She is planning to divorce her husband and wants to catch him by surprise. I think she just wants to be able to talk to someone who knows what she is going through.

T1

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<strong>When I first saw this woman I did a double take. She is so beautiful. I could not understand how any man could leave her for my ex wife. My ex wife is pretty and all but she has nothing on this woman. T1</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T1:
<strong>When I first saw this woman I did a double take. She is so beautiful. I could not understand how any man could leave her for my ex wife. My ex wife is pretty and all but she has nothing on this woman. T1</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry for what you are going thru, but I just wanted to make a short statement on the above quote that will hopefully help someone.
Someone might wonder why I would want to leave my hubby because of his stunning good looks... but because of the way he acts and because of the major LB he has done and because of his controlling behaviour, his looks no longer matter whatsoever. I would rather have a troll that treats me like a princess than this stunning man that is clueless on how to have a relationship other than a business relationship.......

Not that this is the case with this OM's wife of course... just wanted to point this out.... it is one of my little pet peeves that I must hear from my mother...... who says to me at least once a week... but Mr Hubby is nice looking. Like that would matter a hill of beans to me at this point in time!
Anyway... carry on with this post..... I'm just on a soapbox tonight <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I gave MOW H our D papers which states our M was broken because H & his wife A. they had agreed to split the month in half with 3 kids. my H got mad when they were around each other talking about their kids, guess he thought she might go back to him. My H told her that I was dating her H, I only met him once to tell him about his WS. She changed her mind & was taking him to the cleaners, it wasnt his fault that his wife & my H was having A. After he got our D papers she didnt fight. He got their 3 kids half the month, $200 child support no increase within 2 yrs. and H did pay her charge bills $8,000, he gave her the house but she has to pay for it. Ive heard nothing but good about him he could have taken the kids from her if he wanted to be nasty. He goes to church with his sons, W didnt want to go. I dont feel bad about what I did, it has helped me put both X & OW behind me. I was shocked when I saw him, much younger than my X & so good looking. I believe it was money problems that caused their breakup. Young couple with 3 kids didnt know how to managed their money. Both made good money H-CSX her a nurse, when D they had nothing but unpaid bills.

W-48 H-42
D-5-23-02
C-13, 28, 7 gd
M-17 yrs, 9 months

MOW-29
D-judge needs to sign
C- 3 under 10
M- 10 years

Goddess your too funny. I know when it comes down to it looks don't mean anything if you are being treated badly. I guess it was the man in me talking. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I don't know all the details of her marriage with him. All I know is that she has been through hell these past 2 years with his going back and forth.

Together-

I am going to give her all the evidence I gathered against my ex wife and her husband. I think she will find it very useful. I read in another post of yours that you were making him part of your family now. That is a very good idea. I am becoming fast friends with her.

T1