Well, I got the settlement agreement. Husband is being quite generous. My attorney read it over and we made some minor wording changes. Signed the papers today. Husband actually filed last week. Could be as little as 30 days and I'll be divorced. Strange how fast it can happen.

My therapist says I'm doing great, in fact she wants me to try and see her every other week instead of every week. I feel good. Have alot of work to keep me busy. Going out with friends. Having fun.

Any time I've talked to H lately, it's been all business. Cordial, but business-like. I guess that's alot better than how he was acting before. UGH. I couldn't handle that at all.

I'm proud of myself for remaining in Plan A the whole separation. It truly has made me a better person. H hasn't even begun to face his stuff and is not dealing with the divorce well at all - even though he says it's what he wants too.

Just wanted to share.

Llama

llama:

Sounds like you're going to come out a big winner here! And by that, I really don't mean financially, thought maybe that's a win, too. What's important is that YOU have faced the problems you've identified in your M, whereas your STBX has not.

Good for you!

Hi LLama,

New to this BB, but read your story. I hate hearing about marriages falling apart because of one spouse can't seem to get themselves out of the fog.

Sounds like you are doing well with it all though. You have held yourself together. Lucky in sense, you don't have to continue any real contact because of children.

Mine really sunk-in when the judge had finalized it and I was a little depressed, but completely relieved. After doing a post-mortem on my marriage, I am damn luckly I got out before I was killed.

I am with you on being happy now. SO much more to life.

My only advice, is don't jump into another relationship too quickly, I did that and it was doomed from the start. Really take the time, have some fun, date and enjoy the wonderful things life has to truly offer.

Best of luck in your new adventures,

-ND