Hello everyone-

It has been a long time since I have posted or for that matter even lurked here. However, that doesn't mean that you aren't on my mind.

I just thought I'd check in and give an update. Things post divorce are going great! Although going through it was the worst thing I have ever experienced, I learned a lot about myself in the process and like the new me a lot better. I truly believe that although I wish my X's A had never happened I am much better off without him. I feel healthy and happy again, it is wonderful!

My kids are doing great. They still have some rough times, but overall are doing very well. I really think living in a home free of the alcoholism and codependency is doing wonders for them.

As for me, I have met a truly wonderful man and things are progressing nicely. I don't know where it is headed or what will come of it, but these first few months with him have been awesome. He knows all my background and is simply wonderful and understanding. It is a great thing to be with someone who is kind, fun, and appreciative. He is so different from my X. It's like they say, this whole A stuff really kills your self image, but as you work through it and start to heal and believe in yourself again great things begin to happen. For the first time in my life I really like myself and see myself as someone who deserves good things. The more I believe this the better things get, things are definately looking up!

I just wanted to post this to check in and let you know that I think of you often. I also want to let those of you who are still hurting know that it does get better. Make yourself a priority, you all deserve it.

Hope to hear from some of you!

Take care and God bless!
K

Thank you for the words of encouragment...It is nice to know that things really can get better. And yes maybe someday I will be better off because of all of this pain.. Good luck and thank you..

Yeah for you!! So nice to hear that there can be peace and happiness on the other side of this mess for both adult and children

Pat yourself on the back and goodluck with your new man!

Hi SR,

I remember you, of course!!!

Nice to see your life is going so well. Keep dropping in, because happy endings are such an inspiration to people here, especially the newbies who need the most encouragement.

Love and light,

Jacky

What a great post.

I think and hope I will get there someday too. Thanks again for the uplifting post. Pat

still reeling.

Your post was especially good for me tonight. The issues that I am dealing with sound alot like what you went through. I need some encouraging words right now. I know I need to let go, yet find myself not taking all the steps I need to. does that make sense?

This week I started (for real) going to alanon and need to move forward with my life.

I wish you the best of everything in your new life.

d.

Jacky-

Nice to hear from you. You have been the source of much needed inspiration and encouragement throughout this whole process. I hope things are going well for you too. I see that you are still in the midst of the D process and I know how not fun that is. I will keep you in my prayers!

maw64, OhMyGoddess, miserynmissouri, and WillGetThruThis-

I am glad I can offer some words of hope. You will get thru this. However, keep in mind that everyone does at their own pace. I don't know how much you know of my history, but it was not pretty. My X is an alcoholic who left me for a coworker 12 years my junior when I was three months pregnant with our fourth child. I worked my butt off to work things out, but he wasn't interested. In the process I tried a lot of stuff that I now feel was a waste of time, but I don't regret any of it. I know that I tried everything and have no guilt or regrets. I also see now after a lot of reading, self help, and the support of my family and friends (many of them on this site) that I was in a really messed up situation and am much healthier and happier out of it. I by no means advocate divorce, but sometimes it really can be for the best. I wish you all the best.

Gottruth-

In case you see this my computer ate my e-mail address book so I can't get thru to you. I have so much to chat with you about and am constantly thinking of you so if you see this please e-mail me.

Godisincontrol-

It has been to long, how are you and those beautiful kids doing? I would love to hear from you!

Take care and God bless!

K