My ex-husband and I just recently divorced.
We have a 3 year old son together who is wonderful.

Well since the divorce we have been talking and want to try to work things out.
We still completley love each other and don't want our son to have a broken home.

I guess my question is. . .What is reconciliation in Gods eyes?
Are we still considered married to him or in order to try to work things out must we remarry?

What do you think. . .

Please don't take this the wrong way . Why does it seem to always have to end in divorce before one decides they want it to work out? I know I didn't have any input to answer your question, but it seems that the marriage has to end inorder for it to work, in most cases that is.. Just wondering why... What changes your or his mind about working it out?

Well we got a divorce because we couldn't get along. He was very disrespectful to me. I think after the divorce it became reality to him and he saw how he used to treat me and how hard it was to be shuffling our son around. I guess we just didn't try hard enough when we were married.

I'll give you my thought, If their was no abuse, no affairs or adultery and only mis-communication and cold hearts at one time, God would smile and celebrate your reconciliation, God restores broken hearts and broken lives...if we allow him

A court cannot end Love because a court never caused you to fall in love. A court can only give you a legal paper of the land stating your marriage is over, but cannot end Love, God is Love and a court can't control Love or the hearts of people.

I agree with everlasting. God can restore any marriage aslong as both of you follow what he says.

Well my ex-husband is an unbeliever but I told him in order for things to work out he needed
to respect my beliefs in front of me and our son. He respected that completely and also
agreed to attend church with me when possible.

reconciliation means to reconnect. and it is only by the grace of god that this could be possible.

1 Corinthians 7

Marriage

1Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry.[1] 2But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.