OK folks, thanks to an inspiration by Raysofhope, let's have a little fun here and compile those famous WS quotes (sarcastic remarks after the quotes are strongly encouraged!!!!!!)

Here's my favorite:
"I don't know if I have the time or energy to work on our marriage right now."

---It's amazing how she found all that time and energy to sneak around, lie and visit OM at his house!!!!

Please contribute more!!!! Let's see how many WS's read the "WS Handbook" and use the same quotes!!!

Doug

"I think this will be GOOD for the kids."

After telling me for 7 years how difficult divorce was on the children that she had as her students. Her friend came into a lunch we were having and stated "I am SO GLAD you are working your problems out. Because being divorced is SO HARD on these little guys." 2 months later, my wife is saying that it won't be that bad, and not to worry.

It just amazes me the lengths people will go to rationalize their stupidity and selfishness.

<small>[ July 22, 2002, 11:58 PM: Message edited by: Confused & can't believe ]</small>

After I found out about an EA, the first sign of her multi-layered infidelity.

She said "I just went over to his house once. To take him a piece of Cheesecake. I didn't do anything, But I could have. I was thinking about you."

My favorite one that she said, that I've posted many times:

"There was nothing in our wedding vows that said I had to stay with you forever."

Now I have to tell one that I said recently. You see, she's been denying me mid-week visitation (one evening per week) because she doesn't want to drive the 80 miles each way to the meeting place. I said:

"Where was your head when you proposed and signed the visitation agreement? I'll ask OM, I bet he knows where your head was."

Heh heh.

"Nothing happened before we were separated." -XH
I know that it happened within a week of us separating... so how fast can one move? I know I shouldn't believe his statement, but in a way I still do...

"I don't regret it" - XH
"She looked similar to you" - XH
What the F*K!? Don't want to hear it!
"Where are you?" -XH "why?"- me "Where the f*k are you!?!!" - XH. When I was on way home from work, and just around the corner from home.... Guess he was feeling guilty and thinking maybe I was doing back to him what he was doing to me....
"I'm very happy" -XH. Well he is now going through a divorce from his new wife...

...thats me....
Pantha

Narrowing it down to a favorite is kinda tough but I'll give it a shot. Actually, my favorite has to be one that X said a couple weeks ago after being divorced over a year.

We were having a discussion about her live in and how he should have "fatherly" authority over the children and the conversation switched (by her) to morality.

I can't remember exactly what she said but here's the jest of it - "You need to respect and accept our relationship. We are taking things real slow, you know we've been dating since before I moved out"

To which I replied "First off, if you're coming to me for acceptance then you have came to the wrong place because I'm not your father. Second let's look at this relationship for a moment. X screws around on hubby with OM1, moves out and screws OM1 and husband, meets OM2 and screws around on OM1. OM1 finds out about OM2 and tells her to dump him. X keeps him around for a couple more flings. X moves in with OM1 in another town causing yet another disruption to our children and this is what you call moral?."

Her reply was to walk out the door.

<small>[ July 23, 2002, 09:13 AM: Message edited by: LostHusband ]</small>

What she said:
I know you think our moral compasses point in different directions but they are closer than you think.

My reply:
I acknowledge that you think your moral views are similar to mine. I respectfully disagree.

What I wanted to say:
Your moral compass led you to lie to and betray everyone who knew you, including your parents, your brothers and sister, your children, your friends, your church leaders, yourself, your God, and lastly, your husband. In return for this betrayal, you got the physical affections of a man who among other things had the audacity to leave his wife at home with a 10-day-old baby so that he could spend the day in a hotel room with you. If you really do have a moral compass, it is diametrically opposed to mine.

Okay here it goes ( the ones I can remmember):

1) After catching husband talking on his cell phone with another woman, and asking her to call him back re:going out ot a bar together ( this is when we were supposed to be working on reconciliation) I confronted him, he lied and said : "you are just insane, you need help, you know who it was? it was a realter, named Dave. (calling him at 11pm ) Later I found Dave's name was Susan. The next morning he called me to yell at me, saying "Maybe its not worth it, you want too much, you want to keep living in a house, you want me to buy you clothes ( he spends thousands for his clothes)

As for my question why he slept around when we were separated, if according to him he can't live without me and will always love me, his reply was :"Well you told me we couldn't be friends (sleep together) and I needed some affection. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The more I think about it, the more stuff comes up:
Recent ones:
1) I grew up not knowing my Dad, my daughter (from 1st marriage) grew up without a Dad and my son ( from our marriage ) will grow up okay.

2)She doesn't exist for me ( talking about moi, <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> because I left him) she is a betrayer

3) She made me a drinker, because I am bored with life (again moi)

4) She is not my type of woman but I deal with what God gives me

Ahh, this one has been done a few times, but it's always a hoot.

Setting: After a discussion about her and OM as just friends.

Me: since we separated have you ever just wanted to give me a long passionate kiss like we use to have?
Her: No, it wouldn't be fair to you.
Me: Really?
Her: OM and I do go out together you know?
Me: Well I'm glad you are sticking to your morals. We wouldn't want to cheat on him.

Setting: One day after the first discovery.

Me: Where were you last night?
Her: I had a beer and went for a drive in the mountains.
Me: Oh really? Was Julie with you?
Her: Yeah, she met me at the bar and we had a Captain and coke.
Me: You just said you had a beer and went for a drive?
Her: Fine, I had 3 Captain and Cokes and went for a drive. Why do you always turn things around on me?
Me: Turn things around? I'm just trying to get out of the way!

Setting: Separated and working on herself. I found out that her and OM were back together.

Me: So are you seeing OM?
Her: What do you mean seeing him?
Me: Are you dating?
Her: We go out together sometimes.
Me: Are you sleeping with him?
Her: After a very long pause, Yes. But we are just friends. We have been very good about that except for the sex part.
Me: Captain and Coke please.

I know this is a marriage site but, remembering all of these discussions is really helping me realize what a moron I married. I'll think of some more later.

Well I decided to post some fog talk from a affair conversation while me and WW was still in same house this was from affair number 4 with george just 7 weeks after 1st d-day of 1st A.

OM: You know the rules when you come here

Her: Well I don't know why you're doing this to me.

OM: Doing What?

Her: You have all those other girls

OM: Well you know goodin well I'm married and have other women besides you.

Her: Thats not fair George, why are you doing this to me

OM: You know the rules when you come here.

Her: Why are you doing this to me George, you're just full of sh@#$#

OM: Well you know the rules..I have other women

OM: You know you might be short, but you are also short in the brain too, you know I have other women besides you.

Her: Fine

---- Then she goes and buy her plane ticket to go see him and also bought him clothes,her in Florida, him in California, my kids needed clothes at the time, go figure?

*************************************
Affair number 1 below, before above A

OM: Hey sweetie, I'm glad I caught you online

Her: How was your day sweetheart

OM: It was pretty busy but I was thinking of you all day and dreaming about you at night,

Her: I was dreaming about you too

OM: What are you cooking for dinner? I love spagetti

Her: Me too, I think I'll cook that

Her: What do you think its going to be like when we meet derick?

OM: I don't know I'm just scared and don't want to loose you

Her: I can't wait, we'll run in each others arms and hug and won't let go

OM: I know I can't wait.

Her: How are we going to raise this big family, your 3 kids and my 2?

OM: I don't know, but I just Love you

Her: I love you too derick

OM: When we make Love what position you want to be in.

Her: I don't know, you have an idea?

OM: when was the last time you made love

Her: I don't know its been a long time ago

Now that got me because we just made love the night before screaming my name, sorry to get personal but she lied to him. When I busted this affair up was devestated because she gave him the impression she was separated and divorced and he found out we still slept in the same bed and just made love the night before...she burnt him big time

I could go on but this is just fog talk and it gets nasty, emotional affair stuff, they only knew each other for 2 weeks and here they're talking about getting married, Sex, while they are both still married in the same house with there spouses, never saw each other only exchanged pictures via internet, yet they lusted after each other big time, this was in Jan 2001..

So to add to the humor of this -

She stumped around oneday and said " You made me cook over the years" when I don't like to. My kids feeling sorry for her say to me, Dad why have her cook when this is so hard and painful for her to cook.

Now she only cooked once a month, I cooked nearly everyday for 18 years, go figure? If I burnt out it was fast food

Now we have 2 kids and its painful for her to cook, but she was going to go cook for 5 kids and OM 7 people verses 4, ha, ha, ha, go figure <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Also posted before, but.......

My stbx left me while we were in another country for his work. ten weeks later I got the kids and I on a plane to our home country (for various reasons I was not able to stay there and Plan A).

A couple of weeks later he asked how it was living with my parents...I said it was very hard. He then says:

"Well, YOU are the one that left ME!!!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

FOG FOG FOG!!!!!

Another more recent one, which I had to laugh at. He got my settlement proposal, in which I asked for what I was entitled to by law. His comment:

"Now I will have to leave my job and come home so I can get more custody of the kids (translation...trying to save himself some money). We have to talk about this because that proposal is ridiculous and unfair to me!!!!"

Um fair? Were you playing fair honey? Do NOT talk to me about fair!!!!! UGH!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

cont.
Recent quotes.

Setting: I sent OM a letter about my feelings and the reality of the situation. I sent it to find some closure concerning my feelings for him. I am a man and I have my pride. I was not going to let him go without speaking my mind. I was very mature and did not threaten or ask for anything, just that he hear what his and my wifes choices have done. She asked me what I wrote and I told her. Since my letter OM has dumped her.

Her: I have never said anything bad to him about you. Yes, I told him how unhappy I was in my marriage, but it had nothing to do with you.
Me: We are married or did I miss something? If you were talking about our marriage I think that makes me a part of it.

Her: I'm sorry I caused you so much pain, I know how you feel.
Me: With all do respect you have no idea how I feel. You betrayed me, our marriage and our children for a long time. You lead me to believe we were working torwards a better relationship while you lied and kept your relationship with him.
Her: Well you think it's been easy for OM and me? The guilt, the isolation.
Me: You were having an affair!!!! What did you expect!!!!! What I really wanted to say: Earth, there's no intelligent life down here.

Her: Sex means nothing. It was never about the sex.
Me: (trying not to lose it) I respectfully disagree. After being left for another man and not having sex for 6 months it would mean something to me.

Her: OM lives by his contience.
What I really wanted to say: His pecker must own 51% of the business.

<small>[ July 23, 2002, 08:49 PM: Message edited by: Raysofhope ]</small>

"I never said I didn't love you."

One of my favorites(?) and when I knew it was over for us, we were out on a date and as we were sitting there eating, she said she no longer believed God answered prayers, that he was just there for us in the afterlife.

She claims to be a borne-again and when she says that I just sat there dumbfounded. Her reply was "see we can't talk about anything!"

a few that I will never forget.

1. oral sex isnt an A or even sex

2. you made me love her

3. H gave me MOW name, phone #, Cell #, where she
worked, her age, how many kids she had, her H name. Then H couldnt figure out where I got everything on her.

4. Just friends as he says, not even D, bought $14,800 car with MOW. X is making her payments for her, must be nice to have friends like that.

5. best one is x mother-in-law telling friends that I wouldnt let him have a female friend. then finding out that MOW was meeting him at her house while M to me.

m-17 yrs 9 months
D-5-23-02
c-13, 28, 7 gd
H-42, w-48

MOW- 29
c- 3 under 10
D-judge needs signing
m-10 yrs

Fresh from counseling with new fodder.

One of my wife's many halfbaked reasons to want a divorce was "I will take the known pain of divorce instead of the possible pain that our life may have in the future."

Tonight in counseling, discussing when we are going to tell our children. They are out of town with grandparents and she wanted me to move out of the house before they returned, so everything would be all nice and neat for her when they got back. I told her no, I wanted to wait until they returned and settled in so they wouldn't associate their vacation with home upheaval and never want to go on vacation again. Counselor agreed.

She then stated "You are so self centered. You would make them go through the known pain of all this, because you are worried about a possible future pain? That is ridiculous."

To which I pointed out that THIS exact reason was her main thrust for wanting a divorce. She didn't say anything else after that.

I was waiting for her patented "You always bring my words back on me." line, she uses it frequently. I want to say, "Then say something intelligent so that when I bring it up again, at least you won't sound so stupid." (I really want to say something like that, but it would go right past her.)

My favorite quote of all...
"It was ONLY sex"

Oh I forgot this one.......

My WW , she was on about her 6th affair and we were separated by now, I moved out of state because she continued with her A's and going out on dates and wasn't slowing down, Her response to my moving...

"YOU Betrayed Me You @#@#!!#" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Oh My <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Did she say Betrayed??

I think she was saying "I sliced you open but you left before I could ripe your guts out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> "