Since I'm fairly new to the D/D board, I thought we could introduce ourselves......

I'm Llama. My signature line says it all. H filed for divorce on July 9th, divorce should be final by the end of August.

I'm learning alot about me. Have a great support system and family. No children, but a cool labradog.

Getting ready for a weeklong vacation with my sister and a whole bunch of families.

Hi llama,
Sorry that your here, but if you have to go through a "D", you probably couldn't find a better place to be.
I filed for "D" last October after finding out about WW's affairs as well as a whole slew of other things.
My "D" is set to be fianl in August as well.
Stay Strong!
Wallace

Hi Llama I have been reading your story and you are doing great - I am 37 I have been with my husband for 19 yrs. we will be married 15 yrs on August 15th and have a 9 and 12 year old daughter. My husband had an affair and came clean in October - then we did the serious headgames with each other until about February he moved out a couple of times after that but always came back - then in April I intercepted phone calls on his cell phone from the lady next door who was my friend supposedly calling him hun, and talking about wanting to hook - Anyways then I found out that she had changed her cell phone and her original cell phone number was the number that I thought belonged to the person that my husband had the affair with.. So I have been wondering since April is it her or isn't her - After I heard her message we had a big blow out and he moved out and we have everything in the works for a divorce I am just waiting for the court date. he has continually tried to put the blame on me and has really totall screwed with my head - but I am getting a divorce and my life will go on - I may never know the real truth but someday I will get over him and move on - I hope.... Oh and the lady next door is getting divorced and she is still living next to me..

Hi Llama,

Married for 11 years, 2 girls (ages 5 and 9). Our whole marriage has been a struggle from the onset. My wife left me (taking the kids) 7 different times before finally deciding to divorce me. The only thing I can figure is an early 30's mid-life crisis stemming from family of origin issues. She's being as difficult as humanly possible about the whole thing - one of those nightmare divorces you hear other people talk about but think will Never Happen to You <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am already learning to move on ... we don't have a date set yet, but she's already filed. My biggest priority in life is more time with my children.

Thanks for the chance to introduce myself!

bumping up for more introductions

Hi llama: Welcome to this board (sorry you have to be here though). There are a lot of good people with a lot of good advice here.

My story in a nutshell: stbxh left me in January for OW (one of his clients-very unethical). He moved her and her two children into a house we were renovating and going to use as a rental. He totally ceased any contact with me so no chance at Plan A (we have no kids; he has 2 adopted kids from a previous marriage - one of which lives with him). He kicked OW out in April calling her and her kids pigs and said she was sucking him dry of money (she is in bankruptcy and permanently disabled so she doesn't work).

A few weeks later she tells him she's pregnant; hires and attorney to sue him for paternity - so he takes her back. He still will not communicate with me, I have heard all this through the grapevine.

So now he is living with a woman he doesn't love; she is pregnant with twins; he is living in a very small 2 bedroom, unfinished house with her two kids and one of his kids with two babies on the way (and he was never fond of children); he is having severe financial problems; he is having health problems (recently spent a week in the hospital); he has a prescription drug problem; his son that lives with him is a juvenile delinquent (recently charged with arson, has burglarized homes, failed 9th grade, etc.); he has no friends or family that speak to him; he can't travel (we used to take amazing trips together); and he is still married to me. We signed the separation agreement over a month ago but he has not filed the petition for dissolution of marriage yet.

We had marital problems due to his son that was living with us but that is another story. But we had a great life otherwise (married 6 years) - we had a fully paid for homestead, saving lots of money for retirement, traveling, buying rental real estate, etc. Now he has lost it all. When he left me he told me he didn't love this woman but she was going to help him raise his son (he wanted a babysitter). It turns out his son doesn't like her, has run away a couple of times and says he likes me better.

What a mess my stbxh has made. I have never seen anyone go down in flames faster than him. That's my story.

Hello Llama,

My name is Steve a.k.a. Roughneck. My signature pretty much sums up my life. I have been here for almost a year and wished I could have found this place years ago.
I don't think I could be in the mental state that I am in now without the help of the Harley's books and the advice and support of the good people at MB's.

I hope and pray everything turns out for the better for you and yours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Regards

RN

Well my story is similar to the rest I guess. My marriage has been rocky from the beginning. My H and I have been together 15 years married 12 as of yesterday. He had 3 A's that I know of, I had 1 A after his first 2 A's. We tried to keep it together and made it 6 more years after the last A, but he is military and gone a lot for deployments and everytime he comes home, there was some new woman calling or writing him. Well, I just got tired of it and his most recent deployment was to Korea for a year, he came home half way through and just wasn't very receptive to me or the kids. I suggested separation when he returned for good and he agreed. I tried to get him to go to counseling once he came home, but he didn't want to go,he wants divorce. He had to go to next duty station 600 miles away and now we are separated and in the process of divorce. It is weird, because we are not angry and get along still, actually better lately than before, but he is unwilling to give marriage a chance. He has been in contact with another woman, but I have no proof that it is another Affair or just friendship as he claims, but it doesn't matter anymore, I am being forced to move on, and that is what I am going to try to do. This is not what I want, but probably what I need. It is just difficult to move on with my life when he is still so activey involved in it, but I feel guilty cutting off contact with him completely (I can't anyway, because we have 2 children). I have filed for divorce, but havent' really done what I have to to speed it along. I am procrastinating. I have a girl 11, a boy 10 and a crazy dog. I am tryig to finish my degree, so I will be able to support my children, but in the meantime, the belt is tightening. God will see me through this difficult time just as he will see you through as well, good luck and I know what you are going through.