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#732226 07/29/02 02:27 PM
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XH is still trying to control after all this time.

Our order says: "The defendant shall pay off jointly held marital debts within 30 days of receipt of her portion of her equity in the marital property. The defendant shall hold the plaintiff harmless for all of the following listed debts associated therewith: (list of marital debts, all in MY name)"

It goes on to say: "The balances of all debts shall be paid off within 30 days of receiving money from financing the real property. Each party shall be responsible to disclose to the other within 60 days of receiving the money that the debt has been paid."

He threw a fit about a list of debts I've paid off that I gave him. I listed the debt, the balance, the date paid and check number. He said it wasn't "proof" that the debts had been paid. He is demanding zero balance statements for all debts, or he'll take me back to court. *sigh*

I have a zero balance statement for a couple of the debts ... a credit union loan and two credit cards. Other debts were in collections and as you may know, collection agencies are not really well known for their "customer service" ... I had asked for a zero balance statement when I paid the debt, but received nothing. I have nothing to show as proof that I paid. I feel I have "disclosed" to him that the debts have been paid. Only ONE of them was a joint debt anyway, the CU loan! None of these will show on his credit record, only mine! What a nightmare.

I already took him to court over "failure to comply" because he was letting the property fall to waste, and he was humiliated in court. He didn't see it that way, though. He thought he made me look like an @ss, he says.

The wording of our Consent Judgement of Divorce is a joke. Everything from parenting time to debt provision is written poorly. People, pay close attention to how the other attorney words things, if it is not your attorney writing the order, maybe even if it IS. I should have been more firm with the corrections I wanted made. smirk

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He's pulling your chain again babe.
Heck, let him take you to court.
Everytime that he sees that you are upset is another victory for him - so practice on your poker face. Thing is, he gets energized by these altercations, which would drain a normal "feeling" person.

Send the collection company a letter and cc the better business bureau and your x. Have someone (an uninterested third party) read the letter and write up an affadavit of service signed by the third party and enclosed in the envelope with the letter. Then have the third party mail the letter registered - return receipt. Now you have proof that you did everything humanly possible to get the evidence you need to prove the debt has been paid. Make sure your letter tells the collection company that failure to provide the documentation will necessitate a subpoena. Then subpoena their butt. Oh, and make copies of the letter and the affadavit of service and the return receipt attached to the letter with the address showing and the receipt when returned after delivery.

What judge can fault you for trying???

Learn the legal system FPBC - it is your friend.

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Princess,

Your H seems to be a slower leaner than most. You'd think that he'd want to get it all over with by now. I guess I agree with Harlequin, he's just trying to get a rise out of you. It's up to you to make sure he's not successful. If you can keep from getting worked up over his stupidity, he'll probably tire of the game. Although, with him, it might take a while. Let him take you to court, he'll be the one looking foolish. Again.

On another topic... remember when your H complained about the Lunchables? I was in the grocery store the other day, checking out. I'm shopping for a single man and a part time 4 year old. Of course, I have frozen pizza, mac & cheese, chicken nuggets, and things like that. No Lunchables though. The lady starts talking about a thing she saw on tv about foods that are good for kids. She mentioned that pizza was one of the good things and that chicken nuggets and Lunchables were among the worst, lol. I had to laugh because I immediately thought of you. I told her that if it weren't for chicken nuggets and mac & cheese, my S would starve. I guess some people just need to meddle, huh?

<small>[ July 30, 2002, 02:39 PM: Message edited by: idiotguy ]</small>


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