For me, it would absolutely have to be "Thank God and Greyhound You're Gone". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

the 1st song that popped into my head was the old very old Carly Simon song You are so vain.

Not really sure why that song came to mind except I think the STBX likes the fact that I fought for our marriage & the OW would never go away. I am sure he believes that I have drug out the divorce thinking he come back, no, I did it because there were some things I knew we had to do & I didn't want to & also knew it really gets to OW that STBX is still MARRIED.

<small>[ August 02, 2002, 11:55 AM: Message edited by: sing ]</small>

the 1st song that popped into my head was the old very old Carly Simon song You are so vain...

now a new song by janet jackson. you would really like it. carly is on the song and there is a chant that janet and carly recite that goes, "ah ha who who, who'd you give your money to, gready motha f**ca try to have your cake and eat it too"...

NE way there is a song that reminds me of my ex, it's by Alicia Keys, it's the 9th track on her cd. i don't know the name but the hook goes "how do you find the words to say goodbye when your heart don't have the heart to say goodby"...

<small>[ August 02, 2002, 12:14 PM: Message edited by: idostylin ]</small>

Southern Cross preformed by Jimmy Buffett. Her are some of the words.

CHORUS:
Think about how many times I have fallen
Spirits are using me, larger voices callin'
What heaven brought you and me cannot be forgotten
I have been around the world lookin' for that woman, girl
Who knows love can endure and you know it will, and you know it will

When you see the Southern Cross for the first time
You understand now why you came this way
'Cause the truth you might be runnin' from is so small
But it's as big as the promise, the promise of a coming day

So I'm sailing for tomorrow, my dreams are a dyin'
And my love is an anchor tied to you, tied with a silver chain
I have my ship and all her flags are a flyin'
She is all that I have left and music is her name

CHORUS

So we cheated and we lied and we tested
And we never failed to fail, it was the easiest thing to do
You will survive being bested
But somebody strong comes along and makes me forget, forget about loving you
In the Southern Cross

(I've never cheated though. She has, I haven't. That is about the only part that doesn't apply.)

This one always gets to me..."The Heart of the Matter" by Don Henley:

I got the call today, I didn't wanna hear,
But I knew that it would come.
An old, true friend of ours was talkin' on the phone,
She said you found someone.
And I thought of all the bad luck, and the struggles we went through,
And how I lost me and you lost you.
What are those voices outside love's open door?
Make us throw off our contentment and beg for something more?

'Cos I'm learning to live without you now,
But I miss you sometimes.
The more I know, the less I understand.
All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again.
I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter,
But my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter.
But I think it's about forgiveness, forgiveness,
Even if, even if, you don't love me anymore.

These times are so uncertain,
There's a yearning undefined, an' people filled with rage.
We all need a little tenderness,
How can love survive in such a graceless age?
Ahh, the trust and self-assurance that lead to happiness,
They're the very things we kill, I guess.
Ahh, pride and competition, cannot fill these empty arms,
And the work I put between us, you know, it doesn't keep me warm.

I'm learning to live without you now,
But I miss you, baby.
An' the more I know, the less I understand,
All the things I thought I'd figured out, I have to learn again.
I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter,
But when everything changes, and my friends seem to scatter.
But I think it's about forgiveness, forgiveness,
Even if, even if, you don't love me anymore.

There are people in your life who've come and gone.
They let you down, you know they hurt your pride.
You better put it all behind you, baby, 'cos life goes on.
You keep carryin' that anger, it'll eat you up inside, baby.

I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter,
But my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter.
But I think it's about forgiveness, forgiveness,
Even if, even if, you don't love me anymore.

I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter,
Because the flesh will get weak and the ashes will scatter.
So I'm thinkin' about forgiveness, forgiveness,
Even if, even if you don't love me.

Definitely "I Heard it Through the Grapevine"

Ooh, I bet you're wondering how I knew
'bout you're plans to make me blue
with some other guy that you knew before.

and "Lyin' Eyes".

Also, "Run around Sue"

And "You're So Vain" is universal.

<small>[ August 02, 2002, 02:34 PM: Message edited by: catamount82 ]</small>

Linkin Park - In the End

(It starts with)
One thing / I don&#8217;t know why
It doesn&#8217;t even matter how hard you try
Keep that in mind / I designed this rhyme
To explain in due time
All I know
time is a valuable thing
Watch it fly by as the pendulum swings
Watch it count down to the end of the day
The clock ticks life away
It&#8217;s so unreal
Didn&#8217;t look out below
Watch the time go right out the window
Trying to hold on / but didn&#8217;t even know
Wasted it all just to
Watch you go
I kept everything inside and even though I tried / it all fell apart
What it meant to me / will eventually / be a memory / of a time when I tried
so hard
And got so far
But in the end
It doesn't even matter
I had to fall
To lose it all
But in the end
It doesn't even matter
One thing / I don&#8217;t know why
It doesn&#8217;t even matter how hard you try
Keep that in mind / I designed this rhyme
To remind myself how
I tried so hard
In spite of the way you were mocking me
Acting like I was part of your property
Remembering all the times you fought with me
I&#8217;m surprised it got so (far)
Things aren&#8217;t the way they were before
You wouldn&#8217;t even recognize me anymore
Not that you knew me back then
But it all comes back to me
In the end
You kept everything inside and even though I tried / it all fell apart
What it meant to me / will eventually / be a memory / of a time when I
I tried so hard
And got so far
But in the end
It doesn&#8217;t even matter
I had to fall
To lose it all
But in the end
It doesn&#8217;t even matter
I've put my trust in you
Pushed as far as I can go
And for all this
There&#8217;s only one thing you should know
I've put my trust in you
Pushed as far as I can go
And for all this
There&#8217;s only one thing you should know
I tried so hard
And got so far
But in the end
It doesn&#8217;t even matter
I had to fall
And lose it all
But in the end
It doesn&#8217;t even matter

"I Will Survive" -who sings it???

"I'm Still Standing" - Elton John

"Desperado" - Eagles

"Best of My Love" - Eagles

and one for fun:

"They're Coming to Take Me Away, HA HA" - just for stbx, cos I think he IS crazy <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "I Will Survive" -who sings it??? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That would be Gloria Gaynor

I think of "It's too late" by Carole King.

My XW played "I'm Movin' On" by Rascal Flatts to me.

Lyrics included below:
==================================================
"It's Too Late" by Carole King

Stayed in bed all mornin' just to pass the time
There's somethin' wrong here, there can by no denyin'
One of us is changin', or maybe we just stopped tryin'.

And it's too late baby, now it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide
And I just can't fake it, oh no no no no.

It used to be so easy livin' here with you
You were light and breezy and I knew just what to do
Now you look so unhappy and I feel like a fool.

And it's too late baby, now it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide
And I just can't fake it, oh no no.

Do do do do do do do do do do.

There'll be good times again for me and you
But we just can't stay together, dont'cha feel it too?
Still I'm glad for what we had, and how I once loved you.

But it's too late baby, now it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide
And I just can't fake it
Oh, no no no no no.

It's too late, baby
It's too late, now darlin'
It's too late.
==================================================
"I'm Movin' On" by Rascal Flatts

I've dealt with my ghosts and I've faced all my demons
Finally content with a past I regret
I've found you find strength in your moments of weakness
For once I'm at peace with myself
I've been burdened with blame, trapped in the past for too long
I'm movin' on

I've lived in this place and I know all the faces
Each one is different but they're always the same
They mean me no harm but it's time that I face it
They'll never allow me to change
But I never dreamed home would end up where I don't belong
I'm movin' on

Chorus
I'm movin' on
At last I can see life has been patiently waiting for me
And I know there's no garantees, but I'm not alone
There comes a time in everyone's life
When all you can see are the years passing by
And I have made up my mind that those days are gone

I sold what I could and packed what I couldn't
Stopped to fill up on my way out of town
I loved like I should but lived like I shouldn't
I had to lose everything to find out
Maybe forgiveness will find me somewhere down this road
I'm movin' on

I'm movin' on
I'm movin' on

not sure the name of the song, I believe it was by conway Twitty something about sitting here with you with Linda on my mind. yes linda is ow name.

m-17 yrs 9months
h-42 w48
c-13, 28, 7 gd
d-5-23-02

ow-30
c-3 under 10
m-10 yrs
d-july 2002

I can think of two...

Aaron Tippen's - Kiss, Kiss this..Good Byeeeee

and

Tim McGraw's - Angry All the Time

I'm really surprised that no one mentioned Alanis Morisette, (spelling), her first CD kept me alive during my divorce, my 13 year old daughter wants to sing and write songs just like her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> , it is a Canadian thing I guess <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I won't add the lyrics here, cause they would be censored, and rightly so. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

oh, lyndy, what WAS the name of that song? You know about calling in the middle of dinner? Crap, if I wasn't trying to think of it, I could. I love that one!!! And Jagged Little Pill.

Just came to me...You Oughta Know?

<small>[ August 02, 2002, 09:57 PM: Message edited by: franklymydears ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by franklymydears:
<strong>oh, lyndy, what WAS the name of that song? You know about calling in the middle of dinner? Crap, if I wasn't trying to think of it, I could. I love that one!!! And Jagged Little Pill.

Just came to me...You Oughta Know?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yup, it's You Oughta Know.

Being the fan of Ben Folds that I am, I recommend his "Song For The Dumped" for anyone in that position. Not very many lyrics in it, I'll reproduce them here:

<strong>So you wanted to take a break?
Slow it down some and have some space?
Well, f*** you too!

Give me my money back
Give me my money back, you b****
I want my money back
And don't forget
And don't forget to give me back my black T-shirt

I wish I hadn't bought you dinner
Right before you dumped me on your front porch</strong>

Most of Ben Folds' songs and lyrics are much more gentle and thoughtful than that one. I'm still deciding whether my marriage can/will work, so I wanted to post the lyrics to one of my favorite Ben Folds songs on this thread. It's a song that feels meaningful to me for the situation I'm in now, even though I don't quite understand what the title means. It's called "Missing The War":

<strong> All is quiet, his tired eyes
See figures jotted down
And clothes all strewn around
The bedroom floor

Now nothing's adding up
And nothing's making sense
She's sleeping like a baby
She doesn't know he wasn't meant for this

Chorus:
I'm missing the war
I'm missing the war, all night
Missing the war
I'm missing the war

He drove home again
Pissed and beaten
It's really no big deal
It happens all the time
It's no big deal

[Chorus]

Time may fly
And dreams may die
The shaking voice that tells him "Go!"
Still thinks he might
He knows he won't

[Chorus]</strong>

BenFoldsFan

"I poured my heart out
It evaporated... see?"
-- Ben Folds, "Evaporated"

That recent Linkin Park song.

Don't know the name for sure but it talks about.

"I tried so hard and got so far, but in the end, it doesn't really matter."

The funny thing is, that on the first D-Day, we were driving in the car, and this song came on the radio. She turned it up and stated to me, "This is my new favorite song."

I hadn't heard it before and really didn't listen to the words, but after I heard the song a few times I listened to the words, and felt horrible. Then I found out about her affair and all the lies she had been telling me. I confronted her, and from that day on, every time that song came on, she quickly turned the station. She acted so guilty.

Now it is my mantra. I worked my butt off over the following 4 months changing everything about me. I am a much better man than I was before her affair, and I really am proud of what I have accomplished. With God's help, I have become a man who can look at myself in the mirror again and say that I truly did EVERYTHING that I could have done for my marriage. But now I realize that no matter what I would have done, her heart was not in the marriage at all. Her heart was with another and it was only a matter of time before she left again. Well at least she waited until I had passed my Oral Boards. I would have been hard pressed to have passed with a divorce pending. But I guess, she figured that child support and maintenance wouldn't be as good with a doctor who didn't pass boards. Within 2 weeks of boards, she had left me.

Now I am glad however. I see just what I have to offer and that she is not worthy of the least that I can give. I truly thank her for acting like she did however. She allowed me to understand my weaknesses and work on them for 4 months. I truly changed and have had enough practice with my new behaviors and thought patterns that I will make a wonderful husband again some day. If I can ever learn to trust again. I can only be stepped on so many times before I stay down. But twice isn't enough for me.

I feel guilty, but I prayed for my future wife, if there is one out there tonight. I don't know if the fact that I am still married means that I am sinning. I don't have anyone that I am thinking of, but I prayed that if God has someone in mind, that he make her happy until we are together. That if she is hurting, he heal her. That if she is needing someone, that he help her to understand that I am here and will eventually find her with God's help and love.

I don't know and I truly don't know how to think about my feelings right now. What do you guys think about this type of thing? I have not thought of another woman in 13 years. But now that I am truly free of my wife, in my mind I have no feelings at all for her. I don't know what I think about "thinking about" other women in this type of situation. Not like I want to go out and start something. But I don't even know if I should be thinking about someone, regardless of a certain someone or not, while I am still married. There is no one at all, but for the first time ever, I prayed that there might eventually be someone. I do think of myself as a Christian, and am very confused.

<small>[ August 02, 2002, 10:37 PM: Message edited by: Confused & can't believe ]</small>

Journey

LOVIN' TOUCHIN' SQUEEZIN'

You make me weep and wanna die
Just when you said we'd try
Lovin', touchin', squeezin' each other

When I'm alone all by myself
You're out with someone else
Lovin', touchin', squeezin' each other

You're tearin' me apart
Every day, every day
You're tearin' me apart
Oh what can I say?
You're tearin' me apart

It won't be long, yes till you're alone
When your lover, oh, he hasn't come home
Cause he's lovin' oo, he's touchin',
He's squeezin' another

He's tearin' you apart
Every day, every day
He's tearin' you apart
Oh girl what can you say?
Cause he's lovin', touchin' another
Now it's your turn, girl to cry
Na na na na na na
Na na na na na
Na na na na na na
Na na na na na

I like the one by Brass Construction from (ironically) the year we started dating - 1979 - It's called, "Movin' On"

...Got myself together
UGH
And a movin' on...
That's about all the song says.
'Nuff said?
Harold

I have two... One from Randy Travis (I don't care for country but I like this song.)

I told you so....

Suppose I called you up tonight and told you that I loved you
And suppose I said "I wanna come back home".
And suppose I cried and said "I think I finally learned my lesson"
And I'm tired a-spendin' all my time alone.

If I told you that I realised you're all I ever wanted
And it's killin' me to be so far away.
Would you tell me that you loved me too and would we cry together?
Or would you simply laugh at me and say:

"I told you so, oh I told you so
I told you some day you come crawling back and asking me to take you in
I told you so, but you had to go
Now I found somebody new and you will never break my heart in two again".

If I got down on my knees and told you I was yours forever
Would you get down on yours to and take my hand?
Would we get that old time feelin', would we laugh and talk for hours
The way we did when our love first began?

Would you tell me that you'd missed me too and that you'd been so lonely
And you waited for the day that I return.
And we'd live in love forever and that I'm your one and only
Or would you say the tables finally turned?

Would you say:

"I told you so, oh I told you so
I told you some day you come crawling back and asking me to take you in
I told you so, but you had to go
Now I found somebody new and you will never break my heart in two again".

"Now I found somebody new and you will never break my heart in two again".

And the Eagles song

After the thrill is gone...

Same dances in the same old shoes
Some habits that you just can't lose
There's no telling what a man might lose,
After the thrill is gone

The flame rises but it soon descends
Empty pages and a frozen pen
You're not quite lovers and you're not quite friends
After the thrill is gone, oh,
After the thrill is gone

What can you do when your dreams come true
And it's not quite like you planned?
What have you done to be losing the one
You held it so tight in your hand well

Time passes and you must move on,
Half the distance takes you twice as long
So you keep on singing for the sake of the song
After the thrill is gone
After the thrill is gone

You're afraid you might fall out of fashion
And you're feeling cold and small
Any kind of love without passion
That ain't no kind of lovin' at all, well

Same dances in the same old shoes
You get too careful with the steps you choose
you don't care about winning but you don't want to lose
After the thrill is gone
After the thrill is gone
After the thrill is gone, oh
After the thrill is gone

There is also a song that reminds me of me. It is by Stevie Nicks.

Well I've run thru rainbows and castles of candy
And I've cried a river of tears from the pain
I try to dance with what life has to hand me
My partner's been pleasure, my partner's been pain

There are days when I swear I could fly like an eagle
and dark, desperate hours that nobody sees
My arms stretched triumphant on top of the mountain
My head in my hands, down on my knees

Chorus:
Sometimes it's a bi_ch, sometimes it's a breeze
Sometimes love's blind and sometimes it sees
Sometimes it's roses, but sometimes it's weeds
Sometimes it's a bi_ch...but sometimes...it's a breeze

I've reached in darkness and come out with treasures
I've laid down with love and I've woke up with lies
What's it all worth? - Only the heart can measure
It's not what's in the mirror, but what's left inside

you've gotta take it as it comes......
Sometimes it don't come easy.......

Well I've run thru rainbows and castles of candy
I've cried a river of tears from the pain
I've tried to dance with what life had to hand me
And if I could, I'd do it all over again

Sometimes it's a bi_ch, sometimes it's a breeze
Sometimes the picture just ain't what it seems
you get what you want but it's not what you need
Sometimes it's a bi_ch and sometimes....it's a breeze

Sometimes it's a breeze

I really love this song and it reminds me that even the best of us go thru hard times in life. It's just another bump in the road... We go over several of them in our lifetimes!

<small>[ August 03, 2002, 10:02 AM: Message edited by: Roughneck ]</small>

Not divorced, but have been on the brink recently.

For me it's "Darkness, Darkness," a new one out by Robert Plant. It goes something like

Darkness darkness, be my blanket, cover me with the deepest night.... fill this emptiness with light, now.

And a country song, don't know who sings it, but the chorus goes something like:

After all these years, what have I done?
I've made your supper and your daughter and your son.
But still I'm here, and soo confused
And I can finally see how much I stand to lose
After all these years.

I agree about the Linkin Park one, too - I tried so hard and got so far, but in the end, it doesn't even matter. I put my trust in you, pushed as far as I can go, in the end there's only one thing you should know....

And on good days it's: Already Gone, by the Eagles

Well I heard some people talking just the other day
And they said you were gonna put me on a shelf
Lemme tell ya I got some news for you
And you'll soon find out it's true
Then you'll have to eat your lunch all by yourself

"Cause I'm already gone
And I'm feelin' strong
I will sing this vict'ry song
WHOOHOOHOO-OO

The letter that you wrote me made me stop and wonder why
But I guess you felt like you had to set things right.
Just remeber this my girl, when you look up in the sky
YOu can see the stars and still not see the light.
That's right....