talked with 13 yr old son. dad wont pay his school fees, check for $75 wont make the $1000 needed for school uniforms, plus tuition fees. get around $800 support in 6 months its $490. can't work because of illness & operations needed. not complaining I know God has been with us. sold house 2 weeks on market & asking price in a small town where business is failing. only kmart is keeping this town alive. we are moving to jax fl my home town, will enroll him in church school. it will take our savings but for now he will need this special type of schooling in his life. oldest son & wife will be moving in with us to share expenses. brother is almost 29 yrs old, he will have to double as brother & father figure. my youngest brother & family will be there for us. he has already pulled his rental house off the market & let us just refinance what he owes he wanted no money. house had been redone inside & out all we needed to do was buy carpet.
son will start school there next week,next year he will have to go to public schools we will need free school lunches, son said it wont brother him to recieve them he wants to help out. X wont be able to vent his angry on me anymore, OW & her kids will see what he is really like. Ive made mistakes over the last year but Ive grown from them.dont blame anyone but myself for them. I know one day X will wake up & see what he did but its too late we have a life & need to go forward. this time last yr I thought my life was over. this site & my true friends, church have kept me going, I will not look back & say "what if I had done things different" X had already fallen in love with MOW when I found out. there was nothing I could have done. son was so proud of his dad but now is ashamed of him. X had a conversation with him about OW being part of his family this didnt go well with him. our son is ready to move,dad has pushed him farther away each time they talk. x blaming me forleaving, ow was just a friend now will be your new mom. if only x would remember last july when I ask him to stop seeing MOW with our son in the room X said no, packed his cloths & left. 3 days after courts gave son college money to x he buys her a $14,00 car. caring for OW & her 3 kids come first in his life.leaving it up to our son if he wants to call his dad, the choice is his. we saw X parents at grocery store yesterday ask son do you want to go over & say hi, he said no. He doesnt want any contact with them.x parents have been spreading lies why their son left his family. they support their son on the A, I have never felt welcome by his family. I thought it was the age difference & that I had been married before. then x told our son that mom wanted him to marry into money. x mom has been trying to control our M since we moved here. x could never tell his mom no. now Im telling X no I dont want to take your trash anymore. grown up very fast in a yr. x had complete control over family, now Im doing things I never would have. didnt fall apart picked myself up & got my life together. not sure when I will be back online, trying to keep cost down, phone is the last on list. Im Trish & my son is Karl we have 2 cats named Tom & Jessie.

m-17 yrs 9 month
h-42 w-48
c-13, 28, 7 gd
d-5-23-02

ow-30
c-3 under 10
m-10
d-july 2002

Sounds like you are doing what is needed to get on with your life. It's great you have a supportive family and good you are away from ex. He may realize some day, but like you said it will be too late and he will be the one to hurt. His kids will never forget what he has done and may someday forgive him, but it will take time. And their relationship will probably never be the same. Hugs and prayers to you, Stay strong-God is with you and you will persevere! L.

Just wanted to tell you I admire your strength and determination. It seems you are moving on and will do well with the help of your family, friends and God. Sending my wishes for peace and happiness.

Trish,

Well, I can certainly tell who the grown-ups are around your place and your x certainly isn't one of them.

I think a fresh start would be great.

And your x will suffer for what he's done. My h's father ignored him for years while building a new family with 2nd wife. Now h won't even call him--not being mean, just doesn't care.

Hi Trish,

My oldest son lives in Jax & I go visit on occasion - what a wonderful town. Depending on how things go in the small town I am in now, may end up moving to Jax for better work opportunities. I like Mandarin the best so far, but keep looking and exploring each time I go.

God is good and will surely see us through anything and EVERYTHING. May God Bless you during your move and settling in.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> not sure when I will be back online, trying to keep cost down, phone is the last on list </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">A friend accesses the internet from the public library as she is in same situation. Let us know how you are doing!

God Bless,

D.

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