My story is similar to foggy's except that since our breakup I have also been involved in a relationship. My wife and I still go back and forth on the subject of reconciliation but never seem to be on the same page at the same time. I have been slowly weening myself from this other relationship realizing that it would not be good long term, and also to try to posture myself to be open and available should my wife and I decide to get back together. I recently asked her to reconsider our marriage and since then she has expressed extreme anger and agitation over anything. Everything I do is taken as a threat or an attack. She is still seeing the OP although she states that there is no future together. I have decided to be patient. She has recently encountered some major obstacles regarding housing, job, and finances and is under a great deal of stress. I feel that I am the easiest outlet for her anger and the easiest one to blame. Any suggestions on how I should act and behave in order to help her through this and not appear as another "thing" to deal with? I'll be traveling on business and be gone for a week so maybe the time apart will be good? Or should I maintain contact while I'm away? Any suggestions would be appreciated. By the way, we were married 12 years and have three children - 12, 11, & 9.

Hi Confused_1:<BR>I have been married 3 times and I can tell you from experience remaining a situation just because and having no peace of mind is not a good thing. No matter what, some body has to lose and somebody has to win. My advice would be to pray about this situation and wait on God to deliever your answer. Marriage was ordained by God, remember. What it was that made you guys vow to stay together FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE is still one more reason to keep the faith that in time all things will change.