I have been divorced for almost a year. My XH and best friend were carrying on for 4+ yrs under my nose. I have moved on. Stayed calm and took the high road by not causing scenes or telling her boyfriend, his family of all I know. In fact XH and I seem to be more cordial than we ever were in our latter part of marriage. Now, though, I feel like my xBF may be a bit jealous, curious about what kind of relationship my X and I have. The common denominator is our 5 yr old daughter who we have joint custody of and who my XBF loved to pieces. I truly think she wanted me out of the picture to have an instant family. He, XH, by the way works in same office as OW. And that is how EA evolved.

But back to my point, am I being paranoid thinking she is snooping around? It's just a gut feeling. Maybe I think that is what I would do if I wanted someone so bad that I would break up a family to get it by being so deceptive. I mean, if my X good friend could stoop as low as she has already done, why not continue? Actually if she is snooping, it's a step up. What a loser some people become all for the sake of some quick, over-in-a-minute hot sex.

TwentyNinePalms,

Yep, she probably is snooping...the reason being is that she can't trust him because she knows he's a cheater...their relationship will eventually fall apart.

Take care,

ANNA

Thanks Anna for your response. I didn't think I was really being paranoid, just being alert. Heck, I am a woman. And I know if you want someone, you can really turn on the gameplaying and the charm. Men can be such fools when sex is involved ... and I hate to say it, but THANK GOD, I wasn't tempted when they were cheating, cuz, he would know! Kind of scary thought huh?