As you all know, H took OW to beach with the kids for the week. This is clearly against the court order. Our settlement hearing is next monday and if H tries to pull some BS over my profit sharing or the house, custody, etc, I'd like to have something to counter with.

I have not done as my lawyer wanted me to and spent the money on a PI to document the overnights with the OW and kids. I just didn't see the point.

H's mom and dad, sister and brother-in-law all know he took OW to beach. They all know that it was not appropriate and that he should not have had kids spend week with OW in a family environment. I don't see any reason to pay $500 (minimum time allowed) to PI to prove she is living in her own house with my H and our kids on his visitation weekends. If he decides to give me grief over our settlement( which is very fair to him considering I'll keep all the debt and he will pay nothing but child support), I need to have a plan.

Can I call the in-laws to testify? We live in the Bible belt and my in-laws are God-fearing Independent Baptist that honestly think God would strike them dead for lying on the Bible.

I would hate to involve them but they have first hand knowledge that H planned trip ahead of time, that OW watches the kids all the time while H works, that he has totally disregarded the court order, etc.

I doubt guess they've ever witnessed any intimate moments but they all know what is going on?

Did anyone here have to use a "hostile" witness in your divorce trial????

Just needing some reassurance that I'm not being a sucker for not getting the p.i. proof.

Thanks for any ideas, opinions, etc.

PP

Just remember blood is thicker that water. A friend of mine was going to use his in-laws in his custody battle and at the last minute they changed their story to their daughter's side.

My inlaws didn't try to stop my then wife from taking om to pick up our son when he was staying at the in-laws. He ended up not going because I raised a stink.

Thanks for the warning. I am pretty gullible (and a terrible speller <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> by nature)

Even though my MIL says she wishes that H was still at home with his family, I know that they are supportive of new OW because they have visited the OW's house on several occasions, went out to eat with them, chose her to attend uncles funeral with H instead of making time for me to attend visitation of friends and family.

MIL and FIL can talk all they want about still loving me, etc but I know they will support their son.

I wouldn't put H's sister or BIL on the stand because I know they would lie. However, it would scare the heck out of them to think that I might.

My MIL and FIL like I say are very God-fearing. I know blood is thicker than water but as the new sound says love is thicker than blood. I know they love the Lord and they wouldn't lie under oath. It might physically cause them pain, due to guilt, stress, etc but I have to beleive they would not lie in court. They might try to dodge the questions and dance around the truth but I'm sure my lawyer would tear them to shreds. They are very old-timey thinkers.

Yes, I sound like I'm trying to convince myself. I know it's a bad idea to trust them. At this point, I really don't trust anybody completely. Funny thing because I'm the most trusting person on earth. I tend to fall for anything. I hate that my H took that away from me. It was stupid yes but there was something very positive about being a truster of people. I've found that my entire attitude is so negative now and I don't like it. I whine and complain and gripe and those aren't very attractive traits, needless to say. It makes me wonder who would ever love a bitter ol' witch like me.

Oh well, any body have any ideas if my H pulls some BS in court. He says he wants things to be settled as we agreed. My lawyer says that his will never allow H to settle for our agreement. I have a significant amount of money in retirement that H's lawyer will surely go after.

H says he doesn't want it but he also said they weren't going to the beach and that he registered the kids for school. Big fat lies on both accounts. Why should I beleive him????

Scorned in SC <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

PP