Hi,all

Wanting advice...help me think of ways to help my STBX remember the reasons that we got married to begin with, and to help her let go of the bad. Help me with I can prove to her that things will be different this time around.

What can I say, I refuse to give up

Thanks, Jason

<small>[ August 13, 2002, 01:46 PM: Message edited by: unseen2 ]</small>

A little more info on what has caused the drifting apart would help...but beyond that, it would be nice to leave her a note telling her why you love her, maybe remembering some good times, some cheap flowers from the grocery just because...little things she likes.

Hi,

Sorry, should have given more details...

Short version, About three years ago my wife had two P affairs. After about 4 mon of leaving and comming back she decided to leave with me, out of the state. Since then we have struggled with her guilt over what she had done and with the anger and resentment that I had. I feel that we did not deal with either issue as well as we should have. I have finally purged the bad feelings, longer letting them control me. She says she has forgiven her self for the things she did.

In the process however she has decided that she would be better on her own. Well that is where we are now I still love her very much, and I know she still loves me but is unwilling to take the chance of being hurt again. As I have said before I will do anything to make things right for her again, I just need the chance. And she needs the time to get her self right also.

Thanks,
Jason