My stbxh is living with the OW. He kicked her out in April but took her back in May when she told him she was pregnant. This week she filed a paternity suit against him in circuit court. Why would she file a lawsuit? How can he possibly still be living with her when she filed a lawsuit against him?

Dear Fingers,

I hope you are feeling ok, because I know how badly all of this hurts.

Does ANYthing that the WSs and OWs do make ANY sense at ALL? Nooooooooo.........note the post in D/D where the XW, who has been living with OM for a year is suddenly angry that her XH, on whom she cheated repeatedly, now has a GF. How does THAT make sense? It does not. The answer is that these people are crazy.

I hope you are well and that you know that there are people out in the world thinking of, and praying for, you.

God Bless,
c++_guy

Fingers,

I think C++ Guy really summed it up.

All I add one more thing to the fray.

It's called sucking for dollars... and I will tell you why.

I don't think she plans on staying with him long... that's why she is filing the suit against your "H".

It's called the money game. This Hoe bag (OW) is playing him, and he can't even see it.


If he is so stupid to fall for this one, then I guess he deserves what he is going to get... "CS" payments.

Thats my opinion, I could be wrong.

Stay Strong!

Wallace

I concur.

OW is trying to get money out of WH and WH is probably trying to get her to drop the suit by being nice to her.

She's got him right where she wants him and he can't back out now or he'll look really bad to the court - not like what he's done already doesn't make him look bad enough.

Your WH is probably living in constant fear of everything right now. Not a very happy existance - and plus how much fun can you possibly have with a pregant woman? I know - I was just pregnant!

K

Legally as I understand it, child support is something that cannot just "happen" - it has to be ordered by a judge.

Also, paternity is something that unless he agrees to put his name on and sign the birth certificate is something else that just cannot "happen" - it too has to be determined by a DNA test, and entered into court records, unless the couple is married and resides in a state where the law states all children of the marriage are assumed to be a product of the marriage.

So, this is what I'm thinking.

The pregnant gal is thinking for some reason daddy is not going to put his name on the birth certificate. Maybe he told her this?

PG (Pregnant Gal) is thinking that her relationship is not going well.. so she is doing what she can to cover her butt.

She is taking steps to ensure that daddys name is on the paper - and that daddy gets the bill.

A) Huge LB.

B) Just goes to show that the grass isn't greener.

Sorry you're hurting fingers, wish I could make it all go away. Hugs.

Just to take one of my thoughts a bit further...

As far as child support being something that doesn't just happen....

Sure, he could just give her a check every week... that would be nice, and right, and kind..

But - if she is filing a suit, she must think he won't do that.

So - maybe he said something to her questioning the paternity of the child.............

Thanks for all the responses. You guys gave me some things to think about. I am going to the courthouse at lunch today to read the file. The ironic thing about all this is that my stbxh is an attorney and should have known better and known that he was playing with fire. He was/is paying massive child support for his two kids from his first marriage and it was killing him.
Funny thing is, he doesn't even like kids.

I am really wondering what his defense will be. He hasn't filed an answer but I will be going to the courthouse when that is filed. My stbxh could be the poster boy for the consequences of cheating on your partner!

Well, I went and read the court file. Just as I suspected, OW wants my stbxh to pay for everything, including baby furniture, car seat, diapers, medical, support because she can't work due to being disabled, special dietary needs etc., etc., etc. She even alleged in the petition that the pregnancy was intentional on both parties.

Seems OW is not living with my stbxh but he has a different woman living at his house now. So, let's tally this up: he still has a wife (me); he has an ex-girlfried pregnant with twins; and he has a new girlfriend living in his house. Wow, he sure works fast. He just left me in February 2002. Wouldn't it be funny if his new girlfriend got pregnant too!! Yes, I am feeling a bit vindictive right now and it feels good. He is getting everything he deserves and more.

Fingers,
I'm sorry to hear about what is happening in your life.
At the pace your "H" is going, he is going to catch up with my "STBXW".
WOW... what a mess you have here... I know how you feel and it's not a good place to be.
Your best bet is to dump this guy as fast as you can.
You don't need to put up with this kind of garbage... you deserve better.
Hang in there... it's got to get better for you.
Concentrate on you, and forget this guy.
There are plenty of good men out there just waiting to take you away from all this.
I know this isn't "MB's way of thinking but start thinking about taking care of yourself... if you follow these "WS's" antics it will just drive you insane
Can it get any worse than what you have going on right now?
I hate to be so blunt, but I just hate seeing anyone being put through what your going through.
Stay Strong!
Wallace