I text messaged my STBXH today asking him to let me know when papers are signed, etc. I get this email from him.....

"I really don’t want to continue to communicate on a personal level. I will let you know when the divorce papers are returned, but I do not want to visit with you.

I am going to delete further attempts at e-mail. If they continue, I will print them out and use them to substantiate my request for a restraining order.

Please respect my request that you not call, write, or contact me any more.

Unless insurance, financial, house or car issues arise."

HELLLLOOOOOOOO???????? Me not call HIM? I think he has a few things a bit reversed here. All I can say is glad I'm healthy - it's obvious he is very unstable. I have hardly called the man, unless for business reasons (very few) and called twice to ask where a few items were.

Mind you, we haven't lived together in 4 mos and I've been polite during this whole thing. I just had to share.

I'm having the locks of the house changed tonight. That will give me some peace of mind.

Llama

Wow llama, you certainly didn't deserve that. He is really show his true colors. My stbxh sent me some real nasty e-mails out of the blue a couple of months ago after not speaking to me for months. And since then, I have heard nothing. I was totally bewildered. I came to the conclusion that he is a very unhappy man in his new life with the OW and that has since been confirmed.

I am expecting my FJ to be signed any day now too. In my county, the Clerk of Courts has a website which I check every day. That way I don't have to wait for it to come in the mail or bother my attorney. Maybe you can check to see if your county has something similar.

llama,

I find this one so tempting. Next email:

Subject Line: Print this for your RO
Message: FFFFFFFFFFFFFF U

BTW, I have read your chronicles and I agree his email is from a sick mind and totally uncalled for. He is attempting to really detach from you in a plan B way, or the OW is pushing for no contact with you - as you are the biggest threat to her sick "victory".

You take care, get your head totally together, and have a wonderful life. That guy has really screwed up his life, not yours.

IS

fingers & inshock -

thanks so much for your responses. although i laughed a bit when i got that email, a part of me felt hurt as well. of all the things - me? a harasser? c'mon, give me a break.

he is indeed showing his true colors. all the more reason to know that i made the right decision in my life. he never once in our separation tried to fight to save our marriage. he just kept stringing me along while he ate his cake.

honestly, this behavior is a defense mechanism for him. when in doubt of his own bad behavior, blame someone else - it makes dealing with life much easier. i have wrote in my chronicles about this - "everyone else has the problem" syndrome that my STBX possessed.

it still amazes me to this day. i had my locks changed as soon as i got home on friday evening. i'm sure i'll hear about that when i tell him i have to be home when he removes the final large furniture item in the house.

i had a great weekend at my parents little lake cottage about 2.5 hours away from my house. brought my pooch and spent the entire day saturday on the water. had some great conversations with my dad who is 75. i'm so very thankful for my family and friends. i know that i could have gotten through this difficult time by myself, but having their love and support made it all much easier.

i'm feeling good and loving life. got a text message from STBX this morning that says:
"no word from barbara yet. (his attorney)
please dont reply."

like I'm going to reply. ugh. WHATEVER!

llama hhugs,
llama

there's a very mean, vindictive part of me that would get a lot of pleasure out of sending this jerk's e-mail address to a porn spammer - let him explain THAT to the OW who's manipulating at least part of this.

No - cheaters never want to be responsible for the pain they cause themselves and others. And it seems that when they run out of ways to blame their STBX, they find another scapegoat...

Really - I'd have a hard time not giving in to the temptation to sign him up for every news group and chat - all from the public libary, of course! (so they couldn't trace it to me.)