My wife came to me 3 months ago and said she wasn't sure we were meant to be together. I begged with her to work on things but she wouldn't open up to me. She told me I could never be the person she wanted. "I didn't show her enough affection, didn't know how to talk to her" and it snowballed from there. Guess I was pretty blind because I didn't see it coming. Neither did any of our friends or her sister who she's really close with.
I tried so hard to turn her head. I prayed. I read everything I could get my hands on. I read this site and the posts every chance I got. I did everything our counselor advised. (W only went twice) The counselor thought we had things to work on but we had a lot to build on. He really challenged her with her decision. I wanted so badly to stay married but she wanted out.
It's all supposed to be final in the next couple of days. It's been rough these last couple of days. I guess it's the realization that hope is just about gone for our marriage. I tried to keep things as nice as possible. I didn't even get an attorney. I guess I was hoping if I didn't push she might slow things down.
We've only been married 2yrs., 26 and 24 and we don't have any kids. I guess that's one positive. No kids to involve.
I'm angry at myself because I know now where I failed. We talked the other day and she even said she could tell I'd changed. I don't think I have changed, just found myself.
I'm angry at her because she didn't give us much of a chance. She mentioned problems, moved out and filed all in a big hurry. She says no affair and I did believe her but now I don't know. It was at least an EA.
I asked her yesterday if she'd postpone things. She's bent on getting this done though. So I told her goodbye and wished her well. I just hope there wasn't something else I could have done or said. I guess I'll always kind of feel like that.
Anyway, I just wanted to thank all those who post on this site. Being able to come here for advice has been really nice. It makes dealing with this a lot easier. I wish I would've gotten the chance to share with her what I've learned here.
Thanks again

Hello DF, I'm very sorry to hear things have not worked out for you (yet?). I do hope this doesn't mean you won't be visiting anymore. I am beginning to lose hope with my M also, but I will continue to come and get insight and put in my 2 cents. It has really helped me come to grips with the way things are, and the way they may end up, good or bad. But it certainly has helped me make myself a better person. Good luck, and we hope to see you again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hold your head up, dude. It's not your fault and you are still way way young enough to trip around and get over it and find a new romance.

So she thought she found a greener pasture, huh?
Found a newer model with leather seats huh?
Yeah right. When it crashes and burns you will be over it and able to roast marshmallows on the flames. This I promise you.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. Being young is a plus I guess. It's still just hard to believe this is for the best.
She e-mailed me yesterday to tell me the court date had been pushed back till Sept. 4th. I wrote to her and said "since it doesn't look like things are going to work out with us, I would like you to answer a question. Have you been seeing someone and is an affair what caused this?"
Her response: I will tell you because you deserve to know but I want to talk face to face. I guess that pretty much answered my question. After all of her talk that she would never do that I think my suspicions were right. The way she's acted so hastily makes sense now.
I probably shouldn't have asked but I wanted the real reason for all of this. It's like she took the knife and twisted one last time though.
Thanks for listening.