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It has been many months since I have been on. My divorce was final on Feb 4, 2002. It has been a roller coaster still, Ex came back into my life with no committment to fix our marriage, but was lying still and dating others at same time. I even told Ex that I would do whatever he needed ME to do if he would move back home. He said "No" after he was the one who had the affair and left. I realized finally then that he never did have any intention of coming back home. He loves his sin and is making no effort to change or fix our 20 year marriage. It was very difficult to face, but God has showed me that my EX has not changed and probably won't after 3 years, so I have finally accepted the failure of my marriage and trying to move on with out hope of my EX coming back. I have contacted my first love, friends from grade school, college roomates, etc to help me to discover what went wrong and what are my "failure" points to work on so that if God gives me another relationship, I won't make the same mistakes. It has been extremely painful but cleansing to clean out the past closets in my mind that hindered my marriage. I know now that this was my EXH choice to make to leave our marriage and don't take the responsibility for his affair, but have realized what I needed to change about myself to become a happier, better person. God has saturated my life and I realize that he is trully all I need to survive. Just some hope for you hurting people, as I know it seems like it is hopeless. But God is ever so faithful to wrap us in his arms when we hurt! Trust him with your hurts. Hey to all who remember me. I trully did get helped from this site and keep it on my favorites and check in from time to time. Keep up the good work! Love to all!! SYD
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SEF,
Thanks for comming back to post. I am not as far a long in the process but can really relate to what you posted.
God has saturated my life and I realize that he is trully all I need to survive. Just some hope for you hurting people, as I know it seems like it is hopeless. But God is ever so faithful to wrap us in his arms when we hurt! Trust him with your hurts. Hey to all who remember me.
For me the hardest part has been to let go financially, to trust God in this area totally and fully. I have been looking to WH for that.
God Bless,
D
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