sorry

<small>[ August 27, 2002, 07:29 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

soory again

<small>[ August 27, 2002, 07:30 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

This is just my opinion, she already has no trust for you so its not like it adds injury. She may feel violated at first but it will make the playing field even. That trust can be repaired later, she will also owe you an explaination of your trust violated now. I remember thats how I discovered my xw's first affair was through her personal stuff (bad me) but the exposure did so much, it stopped a lot of stuff that was happening, she felt violated at first but then had to look at her wrong doing so it was a mixed event. I called a counselor before I told her, the counselor said the first thing to expect is "oh you violated me" you went through my stuff!, the counselor said let the responsible parties be held responsible and stop trying to protect them and said why carry her secret affairs around in my head, she said get it out or it would torment me. After that we went to counseling. If I were you I'd bring it to her attention ASAP it may or maynot stop the divorce but it will definitly make her ask herself what is she divorcing you now for when she did the same thing, the emotional sexual thing for a woman is just as strong for the physical to the man, so she had emotional sex.

Here's some more info regarding an affair.

http://www.gospelcom.net/rbc/ds/cb001/

Good luck keep us posted