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Tonight my Xh asked my son if he wanted to come over to his house on MOnday. He said no. My XH asked him how many of his friends with divorced parents don't visit D at his house. The man will truley never get it. He keeps comparing himself to just any divorced man.....he keeps forgetting what he did to the kids and how they don't want to spend time with OW.
FYI---I did tell my son that if he wanted to go to D's house that it was okay to do so.
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How sad for your son.
It just seems that x's don'tget it, they can replace the wife/husband but doesn't mean that the kids want to deal with that replacement nor should they have to if they don't want.
Op's just don't get it either that the WS need to have time one on one with their kids, that they shouldn't and don't have to be the center of all the WS's attention!!
Good for your son for sticking up for himself!!
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FSA,
It seems that the "WS" just discount their actions and think that everyone will just pretend that everything is just fine.
They truly don't get it, do they?
Lets just sweep everything under the carpet and lets all be friends.
In my case , my three children want absolutely nothing to do with their mother because of the things that she did and the way she went about doing them... and continues to still do.
My STBXW has much to ask for as far as forgiveness concerning my children.
Until she does ask for forgiveness from my children... she won't be seeing them anytime soon or in the near future... their choice
Good for your son, I commend him in taking the stance that he has.
Your not alone in this situation.
Stay Strong!
Wallace
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Thanks for the posts! I think my son was very proud of himself that he said what he felt. I thought that without his older brother around (he left for college) that he would cave! I think that my XH thought the same thing. I know that he loves the kids....I know that they love him...they need to do this when they are ready. I didn't like that he asked about my son's other friends with divorced parents.....they go see their fathers.....didn't really like that he said that to him. My son has one friend that he knows with divorced parents....this didn' resuilt from an affair. Maybe one day he will realize....but it is not going to be anytime soon.
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