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Stopped by my x's yesterday to talk to her about some trouble our daughter got into( her and her friends egged some cars, with $4000 in damage occurring)and when she answered the door, she was crying.

She told me she was thinking about our d, but as we talked she said her divorce date was next Tues. She said she didn't think it would take that long( she's supposed to pick up the kids that day) and almost slipped and said like ours(15 min once we entered the courtroom).

I didn't say anything. After all it is her problem. I guess he wasn't her soulmate after all and they weren't ment to be!!

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Bob

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I guess he wasn't her soulmate</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You always mix up your homonyms...

It's solemate. And typically, solemates take about 2 years before they're finally scraped off the bottom of your shoes...

Another statistic for the pile. Let's hope she doesn't marry again for a while...

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Thanks for setting me straight K! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

She seems to be semi out of the fog, although she says some crazy things at times. All of a sudden she is real concerned about our daughter and her friend's behavior with boys, etc. This after she told her to wait till she was 18 to have sex a couple years ago.

Then in regards to the damaged cars she says She KNOWS it doesn't cost that much to repaint a car. Duh, they already have quotes.

So she still talks to the wrong people and gets bad information. That was a problem in our marriage.

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It so weird...
...I remember the pre divorce...
...I remember the divorce...
...I remember the possibility of xW getting married...
...I remember her getting married...

...and now... divorced again.

A lost soul... (not "sole")...

Keep you head on...

You're a good man... Bob!

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I'm sorry you're still involved in the drama of it all, Bob.

It's all very sad you know.

Now, about that $4000 egging dealy -- were these ostrich eggs, or what? Oh my GOD, *what* costs $4000????

Take care, and don't let your ex get to you... she's got her own cross to bear, and it's a heavy one, I'm guessing.

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Hey Bob, K and Jim!!!

I guess they were not in the 3% of A M's that suceeded.

I think Val is in the same 97 percentile that will crash and burn. She is still calling the house every few days and has been seen across the street at the park watching my house. I don't think they got M yet, not sure, don't know, don't care.

I don't know about you, but, it makes me both sad and mad how the events turned out. They were willing to give it all up for the newfound love in their life and now they are just as miserable.
How sad for them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

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Either Medic and I were posting at the same time or I have finally become invisible. But this isn't about me, so nevermind. ROFLMAO

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Did someone say something????

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RWD,
I guess soulmates aren't what they're cracked up to be...like permanent.

All that pain, and nothing but more pain gained.

Best wishes to you.

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Hey K,

I thought I heard something too, strange.

Sorry, ~*~Sheryl~*~. Yes, we were posting at about the same time. I would never leave you out. Hey, we were never M, so I still like you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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*Whew*

I was really worried there! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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Bumping up because it's another example of the A ending - just like the stats say. K

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Not surprising at all. One by one, they all seem to be dropping by the wayside. It's just too bad so many innocent people got hurt by all the selfishness.

Fortunately for me, I have zero contact with Ex and his OW. I don't care to know one way or the other. Actually, I'd rather not know that they've split up because it would make me really paranoid. I'd always be looking over my shoulder. I did, in fact, have a nightmare recently that he tried to come back. Scary!!!

Meantime, I've moved on with my life and found the most wonderful man. He treats me like I've never been treated. I never knew what I was missing all those years!

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"You always mix up your homonyms...
It's solemate. And typically, solemates take about 2 years before they're finally scraped off the bottom of your shoes..."

Hm... ol' 2long's got a question 4U: If "solemates" end up DV'd, are they then "fillet of solemates?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ September 09, 2002, 05:26 PM: Message edited by: 2long ]</small>


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