Hi all. I have a wonderful boyfriend who has spent all of his free time with me for the past two years. We've been living together for a year. If he wants to do something with his friends, I get sad, feeling like he doesn't want to spend time with me. I can't seem to control my feelings. And then he feels guilty for wanting to spend time with his friends. He hasn't complained yet. I feel terrible about the way I'm behaving. I want to change but I don't know how. I don't want him to feel suffocated in our relationship and lose him.

Here is an analogy I like..Relationships are like an A-frame structure. Both sides lean towards each other to meet in the middle. It works best if both sides lean a little on each other, but support most of their own weight...if they do not support themselves, they lean too much and the structure collapses. If they do not lean on each other at all, there is no structure.<P>It sounds like you need to develop your side of the "A frame" a bit...develop your own interests and friends a bit more. If developing outside friends is very hard for you, start with volunteer work...that is often a good way to meet nice people who are concerned about the same things you are.<P>The more you do on your own, the more confident and happy you will feel. Couples DO need a lot of together time, but they also need a little apart time and outside interests.<P>Good luck!<P>