This is a response to We Will Get Through This. You asked if I went to AA to me or my marriage. I went because after WW left for another and my actions that led her to leave, I realized I was just going insane and I needed to do something or death would be my destiny. Yes as time went on and she saw how good I was doing and how proud she was of me I began to think it was for my marriage too. She would say if only I knew you would do this. Why did you have to wait until I left and fell for someone else? Well I realize it is for me and no one else. It's 10 months since she has been gone and she is going to write me a letter to explain why there is no possibilty of the marriage continuing. She asked for my financial disclosure form soon so we can have this over with by October. Its so funny how she claims to still love me and wants to be fiends when this is over. I let her know that in my opinion divorce means full closure. Why would I want to see someone I love {and dont want to divorce}. My way of moving on would be to aoid contact. We really would have no reason to communicate once its over { no kids together). P.S How do you break up the paragraphs?

Nitehawk,

P.S How do you break up the paragraphs?

When you are entering the letters, just hit the ENTER key and it will go down to the next line. Sometimes the ENTER key is called something else and at this moment can't think what else it would be! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Its so funny how she claims to still love me and wants to be fiends when this is over.

She is still heavy in the fog. It's called cake walking, fence sitting, wanting it all. It is so typical of what is said on these boards.

She would say if only I knew you would do this. Why did you have to wait until I left and fell for someone else?

She may have been very unhappy and was looking for a way out. An A was her answer. It is Hard living with an alcoholic, I know that one too. I have thought about leaving many times.

I have a friend who left her alcoholic husband and did it via an affair. In her case, she didn't want to be married to him so she started looking around. And found someone to run to.

It's also hard to trust that the changes and the sobriety will last. So many don't make iton the narrow path. It has taken me many years in AA to become a better person, the person that I always wanted to be. It's only recently that I have become the kind of person that a healthy normal person would want in a relationship. I never knew how and maybe your stbxw doesn't either. We tend to attract those that are sick themselves. alanon would help her if she would go.

I realized I was just going insane and I needed to do something or death would be my destiny.

Well I realize it is for me and no one else.

Hitting bottom. Thats good cuz that is our option if we keep drinking. If you are in AA for anyone other than you, it probably won't work. Do you have a good sponser?

When she gives you the letter, post it here if you like for feedback, but the main emphasis is on you, changin you, staying sober, growing, healing and working the program till you have a spiritual experience then we realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourseloves.

God Bless,

D