Wow, well it had to happen sooner or later. The first "Holiday" or significant day since we separated just happens to be my birthday. I was born on Labor Day 34 years ago and here again, Labor Day is a significant day in my life. I have not been apart from my wife for 14 years on my birthday, not that it has ever been that significant of a day for me.

I have my boys with me and we are going swimming. Funny thing is that I don't feel that badly. I guess it is because my boys are with me. I dread the first holiday or birthday that they are not around. We all have to go through it, so it is nothing particular to me, just thought that I would say something since they will be coming for the next 60 years in similar fashion.

Have a great day folks, go to a BBQ or movie.

Holiday and b-days, anniversaries, etc, are always hard at first, i gets easier though <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Have a great day with your kids, that i what I plan on doing, going to a friends for a barbeque. Happy Birthday <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Happy birthday..Happy birthday...Happy birthday to you, ..you know the rest of the song.

When this wierd strange hurt grabs me on a holiday, just do this. Thank God, stop and thank Him wherever you are for the love of your children. For whatever makes you happy. But try and be thankful.

We had a great night last night and went to Stone Mountain and saw a great laser/fireworks show.

Last week was my sons' birthday. It was his dad's visitation weekend. I didn't want to crawl out of bed. Had never been away from my son on his bday ever. Son was 2 lbs when born and I almost died (severe toxemia and was hospitalized 9 days). It outraged me how this man could do such a thing.

But find the little joy today. God has given you so many other blessings. Open your eyes--it is hard at first.

I wish you a wonderful birthday (I'm 33) and a special time with your boys. Also, my counselor has said to make new memories. Find a way to make them today. Do something new. Have a bday pizza instead of cake. It could be really fun, plus you don't have to get dressed up and all that...That's the beauty of celebrating with your kids only.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Formerly Confused: Happy belated birthday. Hope it turned out to be a good one despite everything that is going on.

Formerly:

Happy belated b'day. I too spent my b'day w/o my H (1st in 18 yrs) and it was my 40th!. Talk about being depressed. Did have kids w/me though. Went to BBQ in June w/o him. He had just left 4 days before. That one was tough. But over Labor Day wkend, had a BBQ at my house w/family and no H. I guess I've made some progress. I was the only one solo-everyone else had SO's.

We don't have any visitation agreement yet, so I don't know how holidays will go, but I'm betting Xmas will be tough. More so for him since he has few relatives, whereas I have a large family.

I'm sorry for your situation, but keep your chin up.

Fingers: Just a question. Is 1st OW pregnant w/twins from your XH?

Nothopeful: You got it. XH took up with OW in January, kicked her out in April, she comes back a couple of weeks later and tells him she's pregnant. Babies are due in December; she is suing him for paternity and support.

XH won't speak to me (go figure). I heard all this through friends and by reading the court file. XH now has a new live-in girlfriend (she must be really stupid). And we were just divorced last week.

Fingers:

I know this isn't proper MB talk, but be glad you're rid of the a**hole and never had kids by him. He obviously would make a terrible father! What a mess. I just can't believe some OW would want to get involved w/him. Good luck moving on.