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My husband told me last night that I couldn't watch tv in the same room as him because "I don't feel it is appropriate given our situation". I was floored when he said that.
To recap, he asked me for a divorce two weeks ago and I have already filed, although I don't know if he has.
He also doesn't want to sleep in the same bed as me.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My husband told me last night that I couldn't watch tv in the same room as him because "I don't feel it is appropriate given our situation". I was floored when he said that.
To recap, he asked me for a divorce two weeks ago and I have already filed, although I don't know if he has.
He also doesn't want to sleep in the same bed as me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I can understand the not wanting to sleep in the same bed part, if a divorce is what he really wants, but the TV thing is just mean.
It sounds as though he is very angry and is maybe trying to pick a fight. Do you know what the anger is about?
You are certainly entitled to watch TV in your own house. If he doesn't want to watch TV in the same room with you, then he will have to find another TV and another room in which to watch it. You can point that out to him in a polite way, "Certainly, Herbert, if you feel uncomfortable watching TV with me, of course you may buy your own TV and watch it in the basement from now on. I promise I'll leave you in peace."
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HEY BABY!
I havent' talked to you in a while - missed ya friend!
I hope it is going better than the tv incident! eep! What a crabby thing to say on his part! What elspeth said is the perfect way to handle it...throw it back onto his shoulders.
How's it going with the MIL? Have you been to her house? She still calling?
And how's the BABY??? Let me know how everything's going?
(((hugs to you and the baby)))
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I think he is tryin to pick a fight also.
So, when will H be served? Who is leaving, you and baby or H?
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I don't plan on leaving. If he wants the divorce, he should leave. I guess as soon as he is served, he will have to make a decision. I plan to stay in this house.
I don't see a lot of my MIL these days. I have cut down my visits to her home to once a week. She can see the baby when she wants but I don't wish to see her that much.
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My husband acts the same way. It’s like if I want to watch something I have to go to the other room. If we watch TV in the same room there is so much tension in the room, and I usually try to start talking and hate that I get ignored. I am usually the one to suck it up and go to the bedroom. We still sleep in the same bed most night, but there is no touching. That is so hard. Nothing has even been done in our case, he just wants out but neither has made a move. Once he gets the sell of the house final. I have no choice but to leave then, and find somewhere to go. All of the furniture, appliances, etc. are his. I will have nothing. I lived at home until we got married and had nothing
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Depending upon your state laws, it could be deemed community property. If you can afford the house, you may not have to leave or sell. This is also determine in the property settlement. Your state laws will determine most of this.
I know in my state, if I wanted to keep the house, and could prove I could afford I, I could. I would have to buy him out at some agreed upon time. It could be until the youngest reaches 18, it could be when the youngest graduates from college, or it could be sooner sucn as immediately.
Here is an example. The house we bought, the couple divorced about 10-15 years ago. We bought the house 5 years ago. Upon the sale of the house, her xH got a check for his portion of the equity.
As I said, everything is determined by your state laws, the judge and how agreeable everyone is.
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I live in Florida. Anyone know about the State laws here?
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Baby, Did you see the links I posted for ya?
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