Hi,
I am new to this page so please bear with me. I have been with my wife for 15 yrs and married for 7 of those. She recently told me she wanted a divorce and proceeded to move out of our home. We have had a few problems in the past but all normal ones like financial issues and recreational activities. We never fought or abused one another, but there have been some heated arguments about money( no yelling or anything like that, just arguments). We have been trying to start a family but in may, she had a misscarrage that nearly destroyed me, and her as well. I am at a real loss without her in my life right now. It is the worst pain I have ever felt. I love my wife very much and am looking for any way possable to have her return home to me.
Another issue is that with her gone, I can no longer afford our home, so I had to place it on the market. She wants me to sell the house, collect the equity and pay off our debts so we are free and clear. The problem with this is if she does want to come home, there will be no home to come back to.
Also, she is spending the week-ends at her parents and the week days she lives 2 hours away as she interns at a hospital to finish her program.This makes it very difficult to contact her and I feel like she wants no contact anyway.

I am very confused and I am in need of help. I have been devestated by this to the point of it affecting my health, work, and personal life.

Please give me advice on how to bring her back before it is too late.

Thank you,
John

Hi John,

I'm sorry you had to come here. You did come to the right place. I don't have much to offer. I just wanted to say Welcome, you are among friends.

Others will reply.

I second what Sue with hope said and I would just add that (if you haven't done so) you seek professional counseling. Even though you've stumbled on to a great support resource, it can not take the place of therapy that only a licensed professional can give.

just want to give you a bump.

Hi,

many of us here have been thru something similar. The best thing you can do is to find a counselor who is experienced with situations like this and follow their advice. Dr. Harley has telephone consultations, by the way.

I think it is critical to give your wife the space she seeems to need right now. And focus on yourself as much as you can, taking care of yourself as best as you can.

Post when you need to, there are lots of people here who have been right where you are now.

Take care,

jtois

Bump and I am praying for you. See board on A and B. Redhat and Orchid are great... Orchid is now in recovery and doing well. They are great friends as all here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

John,

You have come to a wonderful place. I will pray for you and ditto the responses above.

The problem with this is if she does want to come home, there will be no home to come back to.

Just remember that people make a house a home.If/when you two get back together and you have sold your house, you can always make a new house a home.

God Bless,

D.