My husband and I have been going through marital problems for about 3 years now. Just yesterday he tells me that he thinks he might depressed. I asked him if there was anything I could do to help him get through this and he said I could stop talking about me all the time. You see, whenever I tell him that I need his attention or affection, he says that's selfish. We used to have sex once a month. Now it's never. He says he's here because of the kids and I think that is no reason to stay together. I'm really tired of putting up with his disrespect. He's always calling single women and they call him to his cell phone and beep him whenever they want. He says he's not going to stop calling his "friends". And today when we were arguing he told me to "eat a D_ _ K! (Vulgar word for penis.) I felt like spitting on him. I resent him for all the things he says and does.
I stay home with the kids and he feels because he works and is the bread winner he can do whatever he wants. I wish he would just leave. I know that I'll be hurt but right now that's the best thing to do. When I tell him we should get divorced he says that I'm selfish for wanting that and that I want to take him away from his kids.
You know I really understand why people go postal and even kill themselves. This man has me getting anxiety attacks and my blood pressure is way high. I'm not obese and I'm 29. This relationship is making me physically ill. I wish this hell would end!!

I feel your pain. Used to get a. attacks last year alot. Now just every once in a while. But my bp is still up 20 points from last year. Talk to your doc.

Read MB principles here. Go to A and B posts for help. I am going to start re reading those posts also. See and find out what works. Find a Christian MC who is willing to use MB principles or one here like the Harleys. A and B could be good for you. I will pray for you guys. Thanks for starting here. If you both are willing, you may not ever need to be posting here on divorce and be on recovery page. That is my hope for you guys. All the best to you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Working out and getting outside seems to control the a. attacks and actually lessens them, the severity of them when they do descend upon us. Taht works for me. Learned how to focus and calm myself down.

R/C,
Listen to J, she is very insightful, the people here are wonderful, everyone is a true blessing to me, as my story is similar to yours, except I am on the same side of this horibble boat that you are on. See My Own New Thread in emotional.
Please feel free to write me any time, here or at
Fxncarz@AOL, because as you need daily support, I to need that same support, and we all should stick together.
I have been here a couple of weeks now, and everyone is a great help.
I sincerly hope and pray that things do work out for you and H and pray for your pain, as I have the same pain, and I would not wish this on anyone.
Thanks for reading, and God bless you and yours,
b