I posted a few days ago on this topic and want to thank everyone who responded.
To briefly summerize, my best friend of 15 yrs and wife of 7 years decided to leave me. Her reasons were she no longer loved me, I took her for granted, and I was not there for her when she needed me to be.
All of what she said of me is true to some extent and it makes me sick to my stomach that I ever let it get this bad. I have never tried to hurt her in any way, and I did not see the problems I was causing. I am guilty of spending too much time with friends and not enough time with the person I love the most. She has been gone now for nearly 5 weeks and it never gets better. I am trying to do everything I can to bring her back to me but she continues to pull away. Everyone says to let it go and things will be better, but no one understands how much I love her and need her in my life. I have never been with anyone else nor do I want to now. This is absolutely killing me and I am so lost. I have taken the advice from some of you who responded to my first post, and am seeking counseling. I hope it helps, but I feel the only way for things to get better is for her to want to work it out with me. As of now, she is unwilling to do this. She states she has no desire for us to work on our marriage. Please respond with advice on how I can get her to agree on this. I am not ready to move on with my life without her nor do I think I will ever be ready for that. I need help in getting her to talk to me so please, if you have any suggestions, I am open and willing to try anything.

Thank you,

John

j,

I don't have much time but will post about a book that goes through step by step a trial period where each agrees to not file, etc. I need to go pick up my son but will post more on that later.

You are in my prayers -

God Bless

D.

I'm sorry that you are going thru such a sad and difficult time in your life. I would recomend that you read the Harley book 'Surviving an affair' and go see a doctor to prescribe you some anti-depressants to help you cope with the pain (they really do help to keep you in balance)

I beleive that your thread should be on the Infidelity General Questions board because your thread will exposed to more MB'ers who could give you their insights and advice you on your situation. Here's a shortcut:

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=forum;f=37