My divorce has been final for about 3 months now, and (wait for it), my ex's A with a co-worker is about final now.

How do I know? Simple, she told me. She told me when the trouble started in the A with OM, 1 month after the Divorce, he still had not decided to move out from his live-in GF + 3 kids, (and for this our family had to be broken?), she said she was tired of hearing his B-S**T, it started affecting her work, (she took a week's leave, then a week's sick-leave), and so on....

I spent a whole day hand-holding her, (she's on anti-depressants), and took her out the night at her insistence, (i checked if OK with my GF), she visited me the next day, and wanted me to take her out that night as well, I said NO. It was my GF's week-end with her kids, so I was available. Anyway, to cut a long story short, my GF found a baby-sitter, and WE went out. My ex's record at work is so bad, she was in danger of losing her job. A common friend of ours called EX's office, to explain depression in terms of the divorce, her moving, etc...... They actually asked if it had anything to do with break-up with OM! Yes, they know! How embarrassing for her! The office's social worker called again to ensure EX was OK for work the next week.

So how bad is this for her? Not that she wasn't warned enough. I hope she has learnt her lesson though. My GF is concerned that EX is trying to "muscle" in on me. I think she is, but only because she doesn't have anyone right now. I have been supportive, but firm in my condemnation of the whole thing with ex OM. What a waste, isn't it?

Anyway, just thought I'd add another statisitic to the blown-up A's to the pile

muzohead

muzohead:

"So how bad is this for her? Not that she wasn't warned enough. I hope she has learnt her lesson though. My GF is concerned that EX is trying to "muscle" in on me. I think she is, but only because she doesn't have anyone right now. I have been supportive, but firm in my condemnation of the whole thing with ex OM. What a waste, isn't it?"

I don't know your story, but 3 months after the DV and you have a GF? One of the things that commonly happens, so far as I've been able 2 tell, is that the X's A collapses and they want their S back. Your call, as 2 whether you'd take her back or not, but having a GF now complicates things. Not just for YOU, but for your X and your GF as well.

Whatever happens, take care!

Well, 2Long:

2 Yrs of divorce talk + 3 A's later.....
Seperated permanently for 3 months before the divorce ( seperated numerous times before then). 2 yrs of depression before then.....

I guess I just didn'y have what it took to see if another 2 yrs would work(?). Spouse was totally unrepentant, refused to see a counsellor, u name it. Last BF picked her up at the front door. She told kids he was friend from work. (2 boys, now 10 & 13 ). Refused to move out, etc, all the classic WS stuff. I have the T-Shirt.

Up until 2 months after D, I was still grovelling, begging for scraps, she was still seeing last OM, I eventually gave up. Hope you don't judge me too harshly.

muzohead