After being sep for 8 months working out our problems we have been better then ever! BUT as of Sat he told me he did not wnat to come home he was tired of stalling and wanted to start dating and being on his own. He is 30 years old is also a reg sex offender for some thing my niece accused him of. and swears there is no one yet but wants someone or to date some one or a couple of someones I do not understand we married for 6years 2kids He is also. We have been though sooo much the last year or so with the sex offender stuff and having a new baby thats been pretty sick I just do not understand

Sometimes the spouses that say those things don't even understand why themselves.

They just know that they are unhappy and try to do whatever they've been told will make them happy - like dating other people.

Sometimes they don't want the responsibility of a family and a wife - it may scare them - they may feel like they can't handle taking care of a family and think it's easier for them to just leave.

You can read about Plan A and try to do it, but for the most part you need to take care of yourself and your kids and let the other person have time to figure things out for themselves. You can be there for them if you can, but don't let them drag you down too.

Try to get a support system for yourself during this time, and do what you need to do to take care of yourself financially and emotionally so that you can be there to help your kids through this too.

K