<BR>I am so tired of trying, only to be told I don't make any effort.<P>I've just got this driving internal urge to leave this marriage and move on with my life. People I know who he considers 'negative' influences think I should. Others think I need to give the marriage a chance.<P>There has been a lot of mental and verbal abuse, both ways. Since I started getting treatment for depression, I and others have seen a major improvement in my ways, but I still feel like I get more than my fair share of abuse.<P>We are starting to visit a new counselor, but I'm having a hard time feeling positive about it.<P>We've been married 7 years and have 2 kids. I've never had an affair but I've been accused of it numerous times and been confronted with 'proof' that I did have one.<P>Don't know what other background I can give that would be helpful. I feel like my husband and I are totally incompatible.

tlc,<P>have you taken the emotional needs questionnare or done any of the work from his needs/her needs? Have you considered coundeling from the Harley's? Maybe the Lovebusters book. I don't know anything about your story, but if it were me I would start with that first.