Now that I have contacted my attorney and requested the D be started, the W says she no longer has a problem breaking off contact with OM. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Back in July (D-Day #6) I did the same thing and she asked me at the time "what would it take to save M?" I told her that she knew darn well what it took (duh) and she convinced me to NOT proceed with D.

This morning during breakfast she said something about my filing for D being used as a threat and I said "no, I am only trying to save myself". She replied "from what?" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> "I have NO PROBLEM hanging up the phone" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Well...I'm NOT backing down this time just so she can screw up my head again!! Sometimes I think she wants me to take out a pencil and ERASE her mistakes just as easy as erasing a wrong answer on a test...sheeeesh.

Why does the threat of D only work for 2-3 days???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Has anyone received any counseling? The multiple affairs, whether EAs or PAs, sound like the behavior of a sex addict. I don't know the whole story but that is my first thought.

Here is a book my therapist recommended "addiction to Love" by Susan Peabody. Might give some insights.

Good luck <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Cindy-
W has been seeing an IC once a week for 1 1/2 years now. She only deals with the OM problem when she gets caught by me. Then, W says she has 'control now' <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> This has happened 7 times. She also has NOT shared her true feelings with me about OM OR me. How do I know this??? It is called tapping home phone. When I confronted her with the conversation she had with her mom (that she moved in with last year), W says "that was then, this is now". The latest from W IC is that the OM is 'holding her emotionally hostage'. Well...IMHO..she needs to get over him OR me. I have told W over and over again this past year that if there has been too much damage done, we should STOP hurting the other and call it quits.

Gaiaa-
W is addicted alright...but remains in denial. I have asked attorney to begin D process (2nd time in 2 months) to save me from this repeated stabbing I have been getting. Yep...I'm still bleeding as you can tell. If I stop D again and remove the threat...I fear another wound coming...right in the back <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

"I have NO PROBLEM hanging up the phone"
Tell her, "It's not the hanging up that's bothering me. It's you picking up the phone to begin with."

<small>[ September 26, 2002, 03:45 PM: Message edited by: Chris (CA123) ]</small>