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Hi all,
Guess this is where I will be now. Having a hard time juggling my emotions. I filed today. My story is in GQII.
Any BS can tell me if its more painful after D-day or after filing? I don't want to ride a bigger 'rollercoaster' than the one Im already on.
Any words would be appreciated.
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Hav2bpatient- actually I filed in July or I should say we filed - jointly - though it was him that wanted it - though we did it for financial reasons and we pretty talked through everything and worked it out ourselves.. So last Wednesday we got divorced it isn't final for awhile - I get papers in 30 days than the divorce is final another 90 after that - actually that just means I am free to marry again - ya right - anyways - I am beginning to think that the roller coaster ride goes as fast as you want it to .. I mean since Tuesday I have finally gotten angry - I have never once held any great anger towards him - though believe me he deserves it - but I realized that I am sick of feeling bad for him because he gave up everything - It is not my job to take care of him anymore - and I am finding this week as I detach and think of my life kind of worth living without him I am feeling better.... I am not happy I wouldn't say happy - but I am somewhat relieved that I am divorced and basically I don't have to deal with the crap anymore if I don't want to.. I again never wanted this divorce - but the roller coaster ride I was on had to come to an end for my sanity ... Good luck to you.... Are you guys fighting about the divorce?? The kids anything?? I know from people on this board that makes things so much harder...
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I am having a rough day.....
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The ride may be tougher for a bit, but you are going to soon find it doesn't scare you anymore. Then you are going to see ride slowing down a bit. When it is over, you wil jump outta your seat and say yippee! I don't have to be a victim and take this anymore. Life is out there for you. You will always have a bit of sadness, as I do, but will move on knowing you did all you could do and are going to make an excellent partner for someone lucky some day.
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