FC:

What a spendid idea indeed!! I just happened upon this thread and have thoroughly enjoyed reading all the posts before me.

The remnants of the storm Isidore passed over the N-East early Saturday morning. And then these past two days the air has been so pure, it's just exhilarating. I woke up this morning and went out in the yard to listen to the merry chirps of the birds. It's been some time since I have actually enjoyed the pleasant sounds of nature, having been so caught up in the pending D.

This evening I cooked dinner for my daughter and my WS. WS actually complimented me on the dinner. Pleasant surprise.

Well keep this thread going. It's a wonderful thing to post atleast once a day.

Well all you super troopers out there,
LOL, my good thing for the day is that I FINISHED ALL THE LAUNDRY!!!! folded and put away. Now next on my list. LOL ITS A GOOD DAY.

From NOW until the end of time, no one will see life through my eyes, I MEAN TO MAKE THE MOST OF IT. LOVE AND THANKFUL PRAYERS TO ALL OF YOU HERE. WITHOUT YOU I WOULDN'T BE OK

Today I heard from a friend I thought I had "lost" in the divorce. She was my XH's receptionist for 4 years and she just quit and called me to tell me how much she missed me and how she had been afraid to call me because she was worried she would get fired if my XH found out. It made my week that I regained a good friend.

Today I heard from a friend I thought I had "lost" in the divorce. She was my XH's receptionist for 4 years and she just quit and called me to tell me how much she missed me and how she had been afraid to call me because she was worried she would get fired if my XH found out she was in touch with me. It made my week that I regained a good friend.

Girly stuff. I have two daughters aged five and nearly seven. I also have a son, but he is having a few days at a friend's house. The five year old just had a birthday and received some nailpolish from her aunt (no, aunt has no girls, so how is she to know that five year old girls and nail polish do not mix, hehe)

So we are doing the girly things, hair, playing dolls, shopping, baking and stuff, and 5 suddenly decided it is a good idea to paint mummy's nails...irridescent BLUE on one hand and midnight PURPLE on the other. So I let her do it...what a hoot!!! She went out of the 'lines' a number of times and I ended up with nailpolish down to my knuckles. We were all rolling on the floor in laughter. Such a good time.

Um....in case anyone is wondering, the beautiful nail job she did is no more...except for the stuff that crept UNDER my nails...I look like I haven't washed my hands in weeks!!!

I wonder what today will bring?

Today...

Got an email from my wife in which she once again kind of back handedly accused me of doing things. This time it is not giving her the bill for which SHE is responsible. One credit card out of about 5 credit bills that we had together. She is upset because we need to find a solution to the "mysterious" dissappearance of the bills. Well, I truthfully have no idea where they are nor do I really care. Other than that my name is on it as well, so my credit is at as much risk as hers. But it is still easier for her to blame me rather than to take the initiative and call the card company and get the address and the amount she owes.

But anyway, my good thing is that I have been really trying to let these kind of backhanded accusations go by in an effort to keep the peace. But today, I decided that enough was enough. I emailed her back asking her to please confront me directly if she had accusations. I asked her to quite sending me emails in which she covertly attacks me. I didn't hear a respose from her at all. I am not even sure whether she got it or read it. I saw her when I picked up my boys, and she acted like nothing at all was going on or had happened. Not that it was a big deal, but I am through allowing her poor behavior to keep me from saying what I feel. I am no longer afraid that I will loose my children to her actions.

Therefore, although I will not actively search out confrontation, I will no longer let her pick at me in her passive aggressive manner. I will stand up for myself and what I believe is right. If she can't handle it then she can stop instigating the confrontations. I am no longer afraid of her. She has no further control over my life.

AND THAT IS A VERY GOOD THING!!!!!

Lets hear yours....

My good thoughts for the day.

We started a program through the school- Building stronger Families. My boys were very well behaved and they participated in the program.

My OS, is an extremely picky eater said if I bought raisins he would try them. PROGRESS

My positive is that my Ex is out the country and I don't have to deal with him in any form or fashion for a whole week! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He's on his "honeymoon" with OW - out in the Carribean where tropical storm and possibly hurricane Lili is supposed to make an appearance sometime later this week during the trip. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Enough said. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> K

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I love the thread!!! It is great hearing about neat things happening for all of you. God really is on our side.

I had a great day. Our house closed instead of foreclosing (my ex decided not to pay anything to anyone for the last three months <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> )

Our bills are hopefully going to be mostly paid off. My lawyer called to say that Jim currently has money and to mail him a list of what he owes me. I took the day off to compile the list-got it copied and faxed and mailed by 5:00--it felt great. I think I am finally over the scum bag!!! That is the best news.

Tonight my daughter surprised me and brought a bunch of friends home for dinner. It was great having a ton of people here and all four of my kids.

Tomorrow is my 48 birthday--and I think it is going to be a great year. I think of you all often--just too swamped with school and kids activities to get on much.

Sorry so long...love the post tho. Pat

Another good thing. Was making pasta tonight and couldn't figure out what to drink with it. I havn't had a glass of wine since before my wife decided that she wanted a divorce. I am definitely not a drinker, but I enjoy a beer and glass of wine every once in a while. Well, I had several bottles of wine from my old place, but no white. Haha, I decided who cares, lets have a Merlot with Pasta Alfredo. It actually was very good. It will be nice to once again have someone to drink some wine and talk with. I have a fireplace and have been daydreaming about sitting in front of it with someone that cares about me.

I just hope that when I do, that the woman can appreciate the conversation at a higher level than just clothes or jewelry. I want someone that shares dreams, not just material desires. Although I want to give her everything, I don't want that to be the focus. I want her to dream. To desire. To need. To be needed just as much as I do.

I don't think that I have ever drank wine alone. I only had one glass, but I think that I will be having more in the future. I sat and drank a glass with dinner as my boys laughed and joked. We had a great meal.

It is the little things that get us through these times. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Besides talking with good friends, emailing others (GIIC) and IMing with still others (Nina and Anna), all good things, I am watching a Woody Allen movie, Hollywood Ending. To me he is the begining and ending of comedy writing. I am having a good time here with my pups and kitties....a night at the movies with my 'kids' at home in our bed....not too shabby...HEY, NINA!!

GIIC---ok, 5 things that are good in email tomorrow......

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Hey you all out there in computer land, i hate to say this, but sometimes it seems like you are my honest friends, you know, the ones you can always tell the truth to no matter how bad it is. THANKS

Well for the good news of the day. I FINISHED CHILD COUNT ( i am the special ed director for my school, sound pretentious, lots of paper work, not much fun or money)

I am also waiting patiently its PAY DAY. YEA

LOVE TO YOU ALL, MANY HUGS AND PRAYERS for your sanity and spirits today.

F.C. and friends,

Had a great time saturday night. Will post on it later. Am kinda few in words today as I am maaaaad.

I had fun helping design a web page for our state med society. Also designed flyers that will be sent out to practicioners as well as drug co's and such..The other board members emailed me back and said that they loved it and that it was so very professional and great! I had never felt so good about anything besides motherhood that I have done..Well besides motherhood and helping my patients that is.

Gotta go. Son has been sick since yesterday. He is not feeling good. Had 101 last night and n/v. He is better but very tired. He's watching veggie tales and I promised him I'd make some muffins==cranberry/orange. Notice though, I AM NOT MAKING CAKE TONIGHT.. lol.

Relatively benign day. Took my boys out for doughnuts this morning. I think we will make this a weekly date for the days that they go back to their mother's, although that will be tomorrow. I have them tonight. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Had a great time this evening reading to them. We finished the Rudyard Kipling short story book. They were a little dissappointed because they really looked forward to it. The stories are very different than regular bedtime stories. I highly recommend it for children 5 and over. It is called Just so Stories By Rudyard Kipling. They are stories that take about 20 minutes to read. I sit the boys on the couch and stand in front of them and semi-act out the stories as I use various voices for effect. They really love it. The stories are ones like How the Leopard got his spots, How the Rhino got his skin, How the camel got his hump, etc.. They are great and really make the boys think about the story line to keep up.

We are going to start the a new book based generally on the standard fairy tales next. Mix them up a little. This 20 or 30 minutes right before bed has become one of our most prized possesions. I highly recommend it. They are extremely dissappointed when we don't have time for some reason. This is about the only reason that they can stay up past normal bedtime.

Take care. Have a good night.

Hello Everyone -
My good thing today was that my fellow employees and I got together this afternoon and I told them all how much I appreciate all the support that they have given me. They make me feel like one of the family. This is a very small office (10 people) and they knew some of what was going on and knew that yesterday was the final hearing day. They are always willing to listen and not make judgements and give me that little extra boost when I'm down.

I don't know how I would have handled this without them, my family and friends and everyone here on these boards. Just when I was ready to give up, someone was there to help me get back up and be strong.

Thank you to all of you.

Here's another good thing that happened to me yesterday, although it may take some explaining!

Before my XW met me, she was in a relationship with another guy for 6 years...the first 6 years of D's life (my step-daughter), to be specific.

While the guy never tried to be a dad to D, his mother helped XW take care of D for a long time. She even took D in for 2 years while XW went to college! For all intents and purposes, she is one of D's "grandmothers," and her family was a huge part of D's life.

Yet my relationship with her had always been somewhat cool, to say the least. She had always wanted her son to marry my ex, and she seemed to think I was coming between her and her grand-daughter. I always felt very, very uncomfortable around my then-wife's X's family. They all loved D, but treated me like an unwelcome outsider...someone who was trying to take a family member away from them.

Yesterday, I got a call from the woman. She needed the XW's new phone number so she could talk to D. We actually had a nice talk about how things were progressing. I told her about the big blowup with MOL (see the other thread for info), and she said something that really, really floored me.

She told me how much she appreciated the fact that I was still part of D's life. She admitted that she was heartbroken when the divorce happened, because she felt that I was a positive influence on D, and she was actually mad at XW for leaving me!

She thanked me for all I had done for D, and asked me to call her from time to time just to talk.

So after 7 years of suspicion and mistrust, my XW's XBF's mother has made peace with me, and I now count her as a friend.

That is really, really cool.

OK all, We have kind of let down on the GOOD THING kind of thing.

Lets look deep into our days. Trash man didn't dent the can, Garage door didn't come down on hood, Sun came up in the east again. Lets look at our lives.

Just a short thought, not much, just a thought. Just a membrance of some sort of good in your day. That is all.

Mine is relatively relaxed. I was in my Church Divorce Recovery Group tonight. A man has been fighting his divorce tooth and nail for almost 6 months. He said he is going to "Stay the course". But he is trying to control the situation. I told him about my situation and trying to think that if I did everything right, that she would change. I explained how I always thought that everything hinged on how I was, and that if I did everything correctly, then everything would turn out just fine. I explained that even after I blasted myself trying to do everything right, that no matter how I tried, I couldn't change my wife. I think that maybe he saw a little of that in himself, and I hope that he can get started a bit better because of my past.

I felt a little better because my divorce and situation may have helped him in some way. I don't know. But I like to think that maybe I helped him see a new perspective in the least.

Hey FC!

I went and got my manicure and pedicure today. It was good, but nothing like when I go for my spa day..LOL!

I am enjoying some very good delivery sushi and I loooove volcano rolls and dynamite rolls. Am enjoying an awesome bottle of chardonnay. My dog is snoring at my feet. Son is visiting Austin tonight for his midweek bi weekly visit. I am so nice,,I wanted son to do that.

I am doing nicely after the yucky stuff that transpired earlier.

What's everyone's favorite bottle/vineyard? I love this one...It is M. Trinchero 1999 chardonnay. Very good.

Now if some guy riding on a white steed would just ring my doorbell and ask me to join him for a romantic dinner and a bottle of cakebread chardonnay or M. Trinchero, I would have it made...

Am getting ready for a bubble bath. On stressed days, I do this thing. Girls---what do you do? And ain't nothin' better than a bubble bath with a glass of goooooood wine on the side of the sunken tub...

How's that for a good night? I think it has turned out ok. I get kinda giggly after even one little glass so you guys must know that I am in one hilarious mood now.

Only four patients tomorrow. Yippee!!Work week is over and I am not going to be exhausted tomorrow!!! And by Jan. 1, I hope to be a full fledged graduate of the "CONVENT OF THE BLESSED CELIBATE SISTERHOOD". I hope that some of my other sisters and buddies here will also graduate soon as well. I am smiling and toasting you...

I can't believe I am doing this... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

The family and I made it through hurricane Lili with nary a scratch - and we had the best family time - watching movies, playing games etc!

Many good things were happening today. K

Rather slow day today.

Evening grim but will post on another board.

Good things today....

Was asked by Neurosurgery to stay on staff at the hospital I am at. That is pretty cool, even though I have little interest staying. But over the last year I have learned to never rule anything out. I just said thanks and I don't know exactly what I am going to do. I never thought I would live in the midwest after residency. I am a western man. But being asked was pretty nice. My department has already offered me a job, and neurology and ENT has been asking me to stay, but I just think that I need to get out and be away from that place, maybe for at least a while. I want to work and finally make some money.

My first year out, I have always known that I would build my mom and dad a house. That has been a goal for my whole life, and with the right job, it can be happening within one year from now.

Other good things, I guess. Met a nurse (older mom type) that I have known for several years, but havn't seen for several months. She commented on how good I look then I told her I was getting divorced. She said to just be careful, because she knew of several women who were "drooling" (her words) over me when I was married, so now I would need to really be careful. I don't know whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. I have mixed feelings about it so I will leave it alone.

Hope you all have a great night. Make sure you post something.