Well i could use some advice, heres my story,

My W and I married last year, I had a great corporate job making a nice salary for my age. But I put wife in fary tail land. For the 4yrs we were daiting while she was in college she's 24 now i'm just now 25. I took her to all the lavaish places bought all the nicestest things for her. always took her out and had a new sports car every year. So I take it i treated her very well. Come marriage time she wanted the fary tail wedding and she got it. Everything she wanted was given to her by my parents and hers. We come time to get a house she wants one out in the country nice 2 story expensive because she has horses. I told her no we need a small house keep the horses in a stable or at her parents where they've always been. But the pressure got to me because I wanted to give my bride everything and anything. I did something bad. I stole some money from my company that I was working for and helped pay for some of the items to go to the house and what not over a 3month period. Well after our marriage my company found out. 2 1/2 weeks after our honneymoon the cops show up and search my place and all. I come home that night tell my wife what i've done and beg for her forgivness. She says she'll stay by my side. I can't even begin to express how much I felt for her. Then a couple weeks later she was cleaning up my office space and came accross a credit card statement. Asked if i had a cc she didn't know about and I denied it for a couple mins then came clean. It devistated her that I lied right in her face. I was just trying to protect her, and was going to pay it off without her knowing about it. But it really devistated her. A couple weeks go by and i get a night job to support the bills. She hated this but didn't really tell me till now. But I had to do what I could to pay the bills. Either way after about 2-3 months go by i started my own buisness becuase she wanted me to be at home when she was and so forth. And I wanted to be here when she got home also. Well bills were being paid, and i was paying way too too much attention to the buisness and not enough to my her. Yeah i said how are you doing and what not. I was not listening to what she was saying. She would ask me to do things around the house and I would put them off thinking to myself, We need cash i need to get back on the computer to pay the bills. She dropped little hints her and there i just wasn't smart enough to notice them. Needed a better picture painted for me i guess. Either way 6 months go by and I think things are fine, well could be better I just thought she was in a slump because of work or something. she found a new hobby with her horses and was off and doing that. I thought it was great she always loved going out and doing that thing so i didn't want to stop her from it. She asked me a couple times to go with her but I told her its her thing and I think its great she does it alone. Her hobby and I don't want to get in it. Well a couple days before our first anniversary **** hit the fan, we got into fight oversomething, and she tells me she wants out. I beg and tell her no we need to work this out. why couldn't we have talked before when things were supposeldy fine instead of waiting till it boiled up inside of her. I ask her to give me one chance to show her that I want to make life changes for myself and her. She says she's had enough, she doesn't feel like a partner the love is not there like it should be for a husband, and thats she's thru. I urge her for a chance and to go to cousling. She says she wants some time apart. We'll she had planned a horse conference in colorado a while back and it was withing two weeks. So she goes for a week and when she comes back its still the same. still the cold shoulder and so forth. She then asks for one week for some time to think on what she wants to do next. I told her i'll be at my parents house for the week. we have small talk everyday but since i work out of the house i come here in the morning and leave before she gets home. Either way yesterday I had a bad feeling and i was right. I called her up and we talked for a second and she said she was going to see a divorce lawyer. She got home we had a talk and she said its over thats it minds made up. The house in the mean time has been put up for sale because we can't keep it. Bills are being paid but thats about it. so she says i want to split things up and you go your way i go my way. She can't leave because her parents won't take her back, because they have there own lives now and want her to learn from her mistake. She can't pay for an apartment and also half the bills since were both on the house. I can't leave for the same reasons as her. Bills and parents said you need to learn tough love. I would like some advice as to weather I should be letting go when it hurts so much that you've given everything for this person and just want one chance to prove you can make a difference and change. I'm not sure if she filed but if she did well should I take that as a clue and let her get on with her life and I start my new life. Also we have to stay in the house together till it sells as I said above. She's in the guest room im in the master. She says everytime she see's me she gets pissed inside, feels like she's been living with a stranger. We've gone to cousling twice since this happened.

Any advice or help to get on the right track with W by myside.

Bump, any advice please.

please someone respond

#1 She is angry with you-need to realize the reasons why and tell her-own it.
#2She does not trust you.Many lies-can you stop lying to her?
#3Women need security. The theft and lies made her insecure.
#4You are too busy chasing the $ to be with her. I hear you saying it was all for her. You are the man and she needs to be able to trust your judgement for her futures sake. Apologize for scapegoating your bad decisions on making her happy. Own all your mistakes.

In order for you to work it out, she would need to learn to trust you again. Let her test you over and over to see that her best interests are your priority-not just providing har with stuff.

And go to church together.

#1 She is angry with you-need to realize the reasons why and tell her-own it.
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I told her I understand why she is angry with me and that I appologize for all the wrong and hurt that i've filled her heart with.

#2She does not trust you.Many lies-can you stop lying to her?

I did stop lying, but she sees even the small things as lies now. She asks me to do something small wash dishes and i didn't do it right when she asked he would take that as a lie. Now were somewhat seperated so she doesn't ask me to do anything. I can't prove my trust back to her since I really don't see her.

#3Women need security. The theft and lies made her insecure.

I truely understand that but at this point how do we move forward and how does she forgive me?

#4You are too busy chasing the $ to be with her. I hear you saying it was all for her. You are the man and she needs to be able to trust your judgement for her futures sake. Apologize for scapegoating your bad decisions on making her happy. Own all your mistakes.

I told her I was in a buble trying to make $ and that it was wrong of me I told her that its not my priority in life now that I know what i'm loosing is right in front of my face if its not already lost forever.

In order for you to work it out, she would need to learn to trust you again. Let her test you over and over to see that her best interests are your priority-not just providing har with stuff.

And go to church together.

I've asked her to go wtih me and she won't she says its done its done its over, i want out, only thing holding us togther now is the house and its on the selling block, until it sells we can't do anything. She can't move out.