I can't believe the gall of this woman. Apparently my stbx Attorney was served with the Petition for Divorce and the other night I get a frantic phone call from my mother asking me if I signed anything to get my stbx out of the house. I told her that I asked my Attorney about it but was told that unless he was physically hitting me, there was nothing she could do and that I would just have to put up with it.

Well...apparently my MIL saw something in the paperwork about me throwing my stbx out of the house and went ballistic. I called my Attorney that night and asked her is she had filed anything like that and she told me not to listen to my MIL as she is lying and that she would not do anything without consulting with me first. She was upset that I would accuse her of doing so.

Anyway, my mother called me yesterday to tell me that my MIL was mistaken.

Can you believe what is going on?

My Attorney warned me that something like this could happen and it is only going to get worse from here. I now feel as though I am truly divorced as my stbx refuses to wear his wedding ring anymore.

I just wanted to vent but any advice would be great on how to handle this in the future!

Hi can you tell your mother not to talk to this women anymore, your MIL knows that your mother will be calling you and get you angry and that is her game. People like this are game players and she is good at what she does. Take care

Maybe I haven't caught all of your posts, but why are you and your husband divorcing?

Hi Baby,

Tell you mom that MIL is very controlling and she should not listen to her or discuss anything with her. Especially the divorce, child support, whatever. MIL needs to BUTT out of her sons life. It is time he cut the apron strings.

Don't let her get to you. It is all one big GAME. If you don't play, the game has to end. She is good at manipulating. The thing is, they are finding that you cannot be controlled. And they don't like it.

Keep your chin up. How long will it be until things are settled and he moves. Another thing, is MIL is probably wondering where the $$ is going to come from for the new house. She was probably counting on the sale of this house. You have messed things up by not moving and abandoning the house. (my guess on things)

I don't know when my husband will move, although the sooner the better. I think he is waiting until the new house is built. I was told by my MIL that I will not be moving into that house. I didn't abandon it, it basically abandoned me. I no longer trust my MIL. She had a talk with me two weeks ago and said that I will always be a part of her life and I can come over any time I want but this past week she has changed her tune and I am no longer invited over. I can't believe the bad things she is saying about me.

Oh, one other thing, I spoke to a friend of my husband's yesterday and I thought she was mad at me because my husband is blaming me for his friendship with her ending. Anyway, this friend says that she ended the friendship because of HIM not me. He lied to me. He said in counseling that I had ended that friendship for him when in fact it was all his fault.

Baby, that is just another way to manipulate and control you. He told you that because he wanted you to feel bad. He was trying to bring you down.

MIL- she changed her tune because she realized that being your "friend" was not working. She probably thought you would come running to her with you troubles and confide in her. It did not work, so now she is mad. Beware, she is not done. She will probably try it again from a different angle. I've dealt with her type before.

Hi B2L! So sorry this is happening to you. IMHO, the next time someone calls - no matter who it is, unless it's your Attorney, STBX, or his Attorney, I'd tell them - "This is OUR Divorce, it's best that you STAY OUT OF IT. When this mess is over, then we can talk. Right now, I'm going through an ugly time, and unless you're directly involved in this, ie. Attorney, it's BEST you stay out of this. Thank you!"
It may sound harsh, but I feel it would be the best thing to say to them, in as nice a way as possible. I know well-meaning parents and In-Laws can make a miserable time even more miserable.
Just my $.02 worth...
May the Lord give you strength and peace in the days ahead.
Harold