Readers,

Well here is the story of a lonely dad <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am 19 years old and my wife is 22, our kids are 3 and a half and 1 and a half. We are currently in the middle of our divorce.
I have been working to support my family since i was 16 was able to pick up my high school diploma and rent a tiny tiny house for my family..Now im 19yrs old and working 12hrs a day still making decent money and then one day my wife decides to say she wants a divorce. I cant say i was totally blindsided by it..but really hadnt expected it. We had been doing relitivly good for me having to work 7pm to 7am for the past 6 months or so. Anyway so she tells me she wants a divorce and 2 weeks later she is on a plane with the kids moving to her moms house. This was 8 months ago. We have started recently getting stuff together for the divorce neither of us has filed for a divorce honestly. I guess both of us are scared. Anyway what i want the feedback on most of all is hopefully somebody can tell me if she is trying to make my lose my mind because About 4 months after she left she called me(we had spoken many times since she left) and said she wanted to come back to me but she had to tell me she had been seeing somebody. I told her to get lost and hung up..took a shower and called her back to appoligize for being so rude about it..but still told her it wasnt going to happen. Eventually about a week later and all but about 2hrs of it i had been thinking about it. I called her up saying i had thought about it and i wanted to get back together again too. Everything was fine till i was about to buy the ticket and she bailed again and started acting like she had never wanted to get back together..it was my guess her and her bf had a fight..she wanted to come back and then they patched it up hense not wanting to come back. But it wasnt that. 2 times since then she has done it to me again. I dont know what im doing here guys. I miss my kids so damn bad and i miss her as well. I want them back but i cant keep playing this games forever. Should i go file for divorce or just keep hoping she comes back?

LonelyDad

PS. Ok so i cant spell and i have horrible grammar as long as i know about it its ok =)

This website is a good place to start. Your wife is in a fog. Read all the MB website, esp. Plan A. You need to avoid all the LBs and basically need to woo her back. You are very young, and this has been very difficult on you I am sure, but I promise you, if you hang in there, life will get better. You need to work on self improvement first, which makes for a strong Plan A. Her calling you is classic plan B response. PLEASE read the info., it helped save my marriage. Expect a very bumpy road, but it is possible to save this marriage. You have a lot on your plate for one so young, I commend you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Take this one day at a time, and see a doctor if you are unable to sleep or eat. Tell him or her what is going on. We will all be here ofr you.