I was so excited when I found this web site. I wanted to go home and tell my husband. I have been looking so hard for a way for us to find each other again. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one in this relationship.

Anyway, never had the time to tell H.

Little information, I have been married for 5 years and have 2 girls. A 6 mon and 2 1/2 yr. old. I am totally miserable and do not know what to do. Too scared to leave and too scared to stay. My husband seems to be gone all the time, and when he is home he always says he is tired. We both have full time jobs, however, it seems I never get a break from it because I am left with everything, meaning the bottles, kids bath, etc.

Anyway, my husband does not listem to my feeling and when he starts to, he stops and says what about his? And then procedes to tell me how selfish I am.

Fights are starting to become more verbal and sometimes in front of kids. I do not want that. he is constantly name calling and putting my down. I am not an angel, but I feel like one of those people who I cant stand that would rather keep the everything calm instead of standing up for myself.

I am real scared.

Any help?

You NEED to make time alone together somehow. I don't know why, but this happens so much in young couples with small childre. One spouse runs from responsibility and the other is over burdened.
My step daughter was in your shoes a few years back.She was very pretty, but she was the only one who didn't know it.
Now they are seperated and she has had atleast two affairs and can't stand him anymore because he hurt her by neglecting her so long. She was lonely and vulnerable and plenty of other men to tell her how pretty and worthy she is. S o sad though, three beatiful little children.
Do some thing pro-active. Couples need to date eachother and not just be co-parents. Get a sitter and go out with him.