My H and I have been married for seven years with no problems. We have four wonderful little boys(5,4,18mnths,and 7mnths). This pas six months have been really hard on us. we have not been talking or spending as much time together as we should. He was working two jobs, Deputy Sheriff and a worker at local dealership. We were making ends meet. We were both sleep deprived and always insisted that the other one get some sleep, so we did. He told me that he had been talking with another women for a month or so this was in August and that they had kissed. He did not know what she ment to him. he met her when he worked her H accident, he died last August. I told him then that he needed to decide if her wanted her or his family and that he will not get both. He left that night and came back saying that he did not want to loose me or our family. the next couple of weeks went by great. Then out of the blue he got mad. He said that he was mad at whant he had did. I have never in nine years seen his anger but I did then. He could not sit still he kept hitting things and even had pushed me out of his way. He said that he needed sometime to think and that he did not want the boys or me to see him like this. Well he had just left two weeks befor that to go "find himself" so I told him no that he could not keep leaving me or the boys.( He us go out jogging at night and two weeks before the finding myself week he would leave and not come back until morning, usually smelling like alcohol) We got into a big fight September 4, 2202 and he got mad and kicked a trash can, hurt the ligements in his foot. He tool me home told me that he loved me and that everything will be fine between us he just needed sometime. Well he nver came back home. the boys and I were evicted out of our house and now we are living with my parents. He is living with OW. From whatI know about her this is not the first time that she has done this to a family, its her past time. She is six years older than he is and has two children of her own. she has threatened me saying that now that she has my H my kids are next. My H now will not talk to me. He says that there is nothing to say and that he thinks a divorce is best for now, "we can stop it at anytime"-H. I filed for a contested divorce after he did not show up to our sons birthday party, did not even call him. he trefuses to talk to me. What do I do? I hated filing. I found out from my attorny that he came to them after I did so I know that he has been looking. I still want my H and marriage is there still hope.

I only have this to say...

My X was a cop too. If they don't start out as jerks, they sure end up that way. I've seen it over and over again...don't know why I was surprised when it happened to me! Abandoning a wife and 4 small children! Pure cop insanity! Don't worry; with their history they'll never get your kids.

Hey the first time I found out it happened I tried to forgive mine. He was so thankful...until he met another girl. Then all of the sudden I hadn't "changed" enough for him...I didn't know I was supposed to change, as he promised me that if I'd forgive him for his cheating he'd never hurt me again in my life. He changed the story as soon as it suited him. But unfortunately what I'm trying to say is I took him back and I paid for it.

I'll never again look at a squad car without the urge to flip it off.

I should not be surprised either considering his father did the same thing to his mother and his step father did the same thing. This was a totally 180 for him. I do know that he was fired for his affair. From what I was told that the office knew about it for a little bit. Even told him that if he did not work things out he can find another job. I know know that one of his nights out that he was supposed to have been jogging the other officers found his patrol car at her house and he was drunk. They took the car away from him. I was blamed since my father called his sargent for some help in finding him. I know this I would give him another chance but we would have to go to counseling. We werer high school sweethearts and first loves. I wounder sometimes if he will wise up and see what he has lost or wounder if she will dump him for a new victom.I am still at ahh about what has happened to us. Many people say that this is not him which it is not. He not the man thatI knew he has changed. When he is served he'll get the papers and a temperary restraing order placed on him. As for her I hope she gets what she deserves.

mine was a cop been on the force less than 2 yrs. Small town where everyone M or S sleep with cops. X used to tell me all the stories about the other cops sleeping around while on duty. Mine took up with M nurse with 3 small kids the age of my granddaughter. people call the small hospital a sperm bank for the atmore police dept. x wasnt her first A but the only one stupid enough to want to leave his family for. x lost job caught in policecar with her. chief of police got caught up in X A & all the lies & was forced out. x acted like a male dog running after a female dog in heat. X couldnt eat or sleep only blaming me for his problems. I would watch out, mine was always trying to have his girlfriends get warrants on me. I was never issued one. X was trying to make me look like a bad parent. Thank God our son was 12 & took the stand to say he wanted to live with me. Judge didnt believe X put in our D papers about Married Nurse being the reason for our breakup. Cops get nasty when they go through D. They try to use the law to get you, do not trust his friends. They will protect each other no matter how close you may have been. watch what you say & do around him or his girlfriend. Let your lawyer do all the talking. I tried everything to make x leave this woman along. Nothing worked. I now live 7 hours away with my son. X is engaged to OW, son wants nothing to do with his father.

m-17 yrs, 9mts, 12 days
c-13,29, 7 gd
d-5-02
h-43 w-48

ow-30
c-3 under 10
d-july 2002
m-10 yrs