Every Wed. we are to pray and fast for one another. Every Weds we can check in and let everyone know we have prayed for the group. Prayer does mighty things and group prayer is even better.

I think it will be great to see how God works in our lives and heals our marriages.

If you want to pray with us I will be more than happy to add your name to the list below.

Praying for : cajunky,Ezra, Willgetthruthis, Godisincontrol, Natasha79, JohnC, c++_guy, Wallace, relady, steadfast and committed, morriggs,lupolady, stillwaiting, Broken Hearted, PasDeDeux, hopeful_person,GinnyF, Not peachy in Ga, cry2much,SNL,LostAgain(Dave&April), Dodger, gloriachu, LoveNcare,JMF,WEN, NiteHawk, Absurd, LetSTry

Prayers answered : Lupolady(air conditioner),Steadfast(first string again)

Love in Christ
Cajunky

<small>[ October 17, 2002, 11:15 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

I am posting this early because the kids and I are going camping with a bunch of people from my sunday school class this weekend.

For October 16

"Her Emotions"

Your wifes emotions can be compared to a finely crafted violin. Because the violin is so delicate and highly sensitive to its surroundings, it doesn't take much for it to be affected dramatically. Any change in temperature, humidity, or altitude - a change so subtle that it may be imperceptible to you- can send it horrifyingly off pitch.

When God is in charge, her emotions are an asset and the end result is soothing.

The best way to approach the matter of your wifes emotions is to ask God to give you insight into what your wife is feeling and show you how to pray accordingly. (James 1 :5). Much of what happens in a womans emotions begins in her mind. The enemy of her soul will feed her thoughts that make her feel depressed, sad, angry, bitter, anxious, fearful, lonely, or full of self-doubt. He will make her think that such thoughts are reality, or that God is giving her revelation for life.

When the enemy screams lies and confusion at her, God will use your prayers to put an end to it and bring the silence, clarity, and peace she needs. Your prayers will clear her mind, calm her emotions, help her see the truth, and make her better able to hear from God.

Only God can heal damaged emotions, and he will do it from the inside out. But your prayers are crucial to keeping the devil at bay while that is being accomplished.

The best thing you can do is to assure her of your unconditional love by your words and actions. Tell her you are praying for her and will pray with her whenever she needs you to do so. Ask God to help you understand what she is feeling and how to respond in a positive way. Praying about your response to what she is feeling is as important as praying for God to heal her emotions.


Prayer

LORD, I am so grateful that You have made (wifes name) to be a woman of deep thoughts and feelings. I know that you have intended this for good, but I also know that the enemy of her soul will try to use it for evil. Help me to discern when he is doing that and enable me to pray accordingly.

Thank You that You have given (wifes name) a sound mind(2Timothy 1 :7). Protect her from the author of lies and help her to cast down "every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ" (2 Corinthians 10:5). Give her discernment about what she receives in her mind. I pray she will quickly identify lies about herself. help her to recognize when there is a battle going on in her mind and to be aware of the enemys tactics. Remind her to stick to the battle plan and rely on the sword of the Spirit, which is Your Word(ephesians 6:17). May she turn to You rather than give place to negative, upsetting, evil, or disturbing thoughts.

Keep me aware of when my wife is struggling so I can talk openly with her about what is on her mind and in her heart. Enable us to communicate clearly so that we don't allow the enemy to enter in with confusion or misinterpretation. Help me not to reat inappropriately or withdraw form my wife emotionally when I don't understand her. Give me patience and sensitivity, and my prayer be my first reaction to her emotions and not a last resort.

Although I am aware I cannot meet my wifes every emotional need, I know You can. I am not trying to absolve myself from meeting any of her needs, but I know that some of them are intended to be met by You alone. I pray that when certain negative emotions threaten her happiness, You will be the first one she runs to, because only You can deliver her form them. Help her to hide herself in "the secret place of your presence"(Psalms 31:20).

Lord I pray that you would restore her soul (Psalm 23:3), heal her brokenheartedness, and bind up her wounds(Psalm 147:3). Make her to be secure in Your love and Mine. Take away all fear, doubt, and discouragement, and give her clarity, joy and peace.

Remember to pray for your own marriage as well as the others.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 10, 2002, 10:49 AM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Prayer request.....About three weeks ago I helped a homeless man one rainy nite. I bought him food, spent about 1 hour calling around trying to find him shelter, and finally let him sleep in our vacant house we are trying to sell.

From that came the biggest calling to attempt to organize some sort of bible study for the local homeless shelters. I have come up with the idea of doing something once a month and fixing a sack lunch and having my kids help during summer.

I went and talked to one shelter and they already have chapel and bible study every morning and they go to church every sunday which is great.

Please pray for me to get the resources to minister to the other shelters. I will be going to talk to them this week so I just needed your prayers.

Love in Christ
cajunky

Another success story......

From: "Praise News" <praise@marriagehealing.org>
Subject: Praise 101002



fname: Kevin

nick: wubb

city: Bolton, Canada

Praise Report: Today marks the end of a huge drought of
contact with my beautiful wife and I. God answered many of
my non stop prayers tonight. Praise God!!!!! Thank You
Jesus!!!! Hallelujah!!!! My wife and I had not talked in a
few months again now. She has been planning on moving to
Alaska to start a new life with some guy there. We haven't
seen one another in a year since the divorce. Suddenly I
get a phone call a few days ago and a message from her to
call. I was very reluctant and waited a few days with much
prayer and support from MHI and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Finally the Holy Spirit told me to call her back. So
yesterday I called and we talked for about 2 mins. Then we
played phone tag back and forth for about 4 calls. I had
given up on talking to her then just as I was going to bed
tonight my phone rings and it's her.

We talked for almost 2 full hours. We cried, laughed, cried
some more. Most importantly though we told each other we
loved and missed each other very much. Then just as we were
hanging up she asked me if there was a vacancy in my life
for her and our dog. I said of course there was. Praise
the Lord!!!!

Please continue to pray for us. Pray for the Holy Spirit to
soften her heart and keep knocking. Jesus only those who You
draw come to the Father... Draw Heather now dear Jesus...
Save her Lord Jesus!!!!Don't stop till she's in Your and my
arms once again. Jesus I give You all the praise and all
the glory. Hallelujah!!!!! Thank YOu Jesus for opening
this door. Please guide me in all wisdom and draw us both
to You and each other in humility and love. Amen and Amen

Hope this keeps our faith strong.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 10, 2002, 03:30 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Cool praise from my work:

My first patient of the day was a middle aged gentleman. He was really nice and was extremely worried as he had undergone a bypass a few years ago and was concerned that he was again going to have another heart attack. While doing his iv and prepping him for my procedure, we got to talking. I asked him if we needed to call him back for another procedure he said, "Don't call me at my home. I wont be there for a few days". I said why of course. He said that he was contemplating going over to his xwife's home. They had been married for quite some time with grown kids in their twenties. Evidently, his wife had just been given a diagnosis of breast cancer and he was hoping she would want him to come over to help out while she went thru chemo, etc. I asked how long they've been divorced.."Maybe two years almost" said the guy. I said, "why did you divorce?". Guy replied "I had a midlife crisis. Started seeing another woman and she threw me out (wife)". I then told him that it was so sweet for him to offer and what about her reply for helP? He said, "she doesn't think I want to come around." "We have kids together and we are still good friends now that the A is over and all that". He then went on and said "our kids sure want us to work things out and who knows. WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD DO?". This was one time where the white professional lab coat came in handy in giving an opinion. I replied, "IF YOU COULD REPAIR THIS DAMAGE AND GET HER BACK, WOULD YOU?". He said, "well yes. but so much happened." I then referred him here to MB and told him of His Needs/Her Needs.

And as he was leaving, HE TOLD ME THAT HE WAS INDEED PACKING A BAG WHEN HE GOT HOME AND GOING OVER THERE TO HELP HER. THAT HE WAS NOT GOING TO STOP AND THAT GOD HAD GIVEN HIM A WAKE UP CALL TODAY AT THE PRACTICE. So although I may be relentlessly headed to a D, I can use my faith and my confidence in God's love to help others who maybe can do something now to stop their broken homes. I was so happy I was just jumping up and down. And he meant it! Went to the secretary at the front desk and gave her the number of his xwife's home and said he would be there for quite some time and didn't know when he was coming back to his home.

_______________

I did not LB today when it came to Austin. Earlier in week after he gave me a good verbal bashing, I decided not to let him dictate to me how my heart and soul should feel and that I am a loving person anyway. So I left a cute Halloween card with the adorable pics of our son I had made last weekend in son's cubbie at school. Addressed envelope to Austin. About an hour ago on my way home from work, got a vm from him. He did that b/c he knows I am not talking to him b/c of plan B. He said thank you so much for the sweet card. It was so sweet of you and the photos are great. I hope you have a good weekend and just wanted you to know.

In that card, I wrote inside: we really wanted to get to see you after church and are so happy you went. You are always in our hearts and prayers.

I am happy God let this day be one of healing for someone. I was FIRSTHAND WITNESS at reconciliation in the most absurd of places. But that shows we can indeed influence others to WALK AWAY FROM THE FOG AND SEE THE TRUE LIGHT. We aren't responsible for anyone else, unless you count our children. Our WS's have to be responsible for their own actions. But we can be loving and do the best we can. Whether it is to stay away to protect ourselves until either they come to their senses or we get our own life anew it doesn't matter. What matters is that we are open to healing and the matters of the heart and soul.

If you could just see that determined look on my patient's face as he walked away today. I just know that God is going to restore a family tonight. Their kids will be thrilled. Pray for him. His name is Ed. Pray that his xW also recovers from breast ca so they can build anew together. His heart is gonna be ok, btw. See, even someone who was with another woman for a few years can exit the fog when GOD SHOWS HIM THE RIGHT TIME AND OPENS THE DOOR OF OPPORTUNITY.

This may not happen to all of us, but it can happen to some of us. Just keep your heart open as you make wise decisions. Sure, I am divorcing and right now I am in plan B and have blinders on only focusing on the journey ahead of me, but I believe if that opportunity arises, I can lean on God to do the healing in my once loving marriage. IF not, I'll just keep on leaning on God and trusting for the future.

Don't have false hope, just have ROCK SOLID FAITH in that IN EITHER OUTCOME WE ARE FOLLOWING WHAT IS THE RIGHT PATH FOR A GREAT FUTURE.

Peachy....what a great story for me. You were so lucky to be a part of that. Gives me hope that one day God will bless me with my wife again.

Love in Christ
cajunky

An idea just came to me as I was posting and it was too late to add to my last post here.

Here goes:

In matters of reconciliation, it now seems to me that there are three distinct things that must take place. None are able to be controlled by any external factor.

1)Strong emotion/situation: Something, an action or reaction must take place that will seriously make the WS reconsider their point in life, place where they are right now and their distinct place with regard to their immediate family...Perfect example is my patient facing a possible serious illness or surgery. Knock their world off balance, basically.

2)Positive Reinforcement: When those emotions are felt, because of so much negativity in their relationship's past, they may not trust their own emotions, so when a decision to reconcile or seek help for their marraige is in question, when it is reconfirmed from an outsider, the positive reinforcement from that person acts as double leverage. Makes them start swimming in the opposite direction.

3)Openness to matters of Faith: Even after possibly denying God or faith, the person must somehow find themselves when faced with this situation in clear view of their mortality, or some kind of dead end whether personal, emotional, or in even their job. That strong situation provides the initial jolt to knock them off balance and gets them just enough out of the fog to re assess their relationship for a moment. If the reinforcement is there somehow, and if that emotion/situation is strong enough to open them up to matters of faith again, then I think that a person could indeed exit the fog.

If we apply this logic in reverse, couldn't we see how possible someone might first enter a mid life crisis or start an affair?

Solution is this, we must use this to OUR FAMILIES' ADVANTAGE SOMEHOW. I haven't quite figured it out, but will keep this in mind.

I saw this exact scenario play out today. And I watched and learned. This is key.

Maybe some other thoughts here or a new thread might be in order?

Let me know.

WE COULD CALL THIS THE "REVERSE FOG EFFECT".

Sometimes it takes a big event or hitting rock bottom (which is a big event) to wake the WS up. This happened to me. Then I got help for my addiction and woke up to what I was doing to my wife. I had to totally rely on God to make me a better person and to help me recover. In essence I got back my faith through this and have learned to rely, love, praise, and have faith in God again. I totally think it is a God thing that wakes the WS up. The big step is for the WS to rely on God to give them the strength, courage, and wisdom to put the marriage back together.

Love in Christ
cajunky

<small>[ October 11, 2002, 11:27 PM: Message edited by: cajunky ]</small>

Please pray for a friend of mine (she is a WS, now DV with a MM) MM is struggling yet doesn't seem to be able to find the strength to sever with his OW (my friend)

I pray that he has the strength to do so and pray for the restoration of his M.

God Bless,

D.

Pray for my marriage, my spouse is at that point where she may not have the strength or will to turn back towards making the marriage work, though i will desperately do what is needed for it to work..............

jonah.....would you like to join our weds. prayer group. We pray every weds. for one anothers marriage and special request. We will pray for your marriage.

WGTT....Prayer is in progress...

Love in Christ
cajunky

bump

Please add my name to this prayer group.

Done JMF.

Everyone,

It took a while to get this done, but here is the wife's version of "Power of a Praying..." Chapter 3.

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"His Finances"
Much of what your H is, and what he experiences in life is wrapped up in how he relates to his finances. Only when we recognize that all we have comes from God and seek to make Him Lord over it can we avoid the pitfalls that money, or the lack of it brings.

So many money problems can be solved by putting all finances under God's covering and doing what He says to do with them. God promises to deliver you, protect you. bless you, heal you, and keep you alive. When you don't, you will experience the same desolation the poor do. "Whoever shuts his ears to the cry of the poor will also cry himself and not be heard." (Proverb 21:13) Not giving cuts off your own ability to enjoy what you have and leads to lifelong difficulties.

To be sure, there are wealthy people who do not give. But if you were to check closely into their lives, you'd find that they are missing many of the Lord's blessings. The blessings of wholeness, protection, love, peace, health, and fulfillment continually elude them and they don't know why. They gain wealth but lose the ability to enjoy it, all becuase they don't know that the key to life is knowing the Lord and living His way. This means giving time, energy, love, talent, and finances according to His direction.

Pray that your H gets hold of this key to life and understands God's will for his finances. Pray that he becomes a giving person who is content to live within his means, and not always strive for more.

It may not be possible to use prayer to avoid every financial problem because sometimes God uses finances to get our attention and teach us things. But your prayers will certainly help protect your H from unnecessary struggle and loss. God's desire is to bless those who have obedient, grateful, and giving hearts, whose true treasure is in the Lord.

Prayer
Lord, I commit our finances to You. Be in charge of them and use them for Your purposes. May we both be good stewards of all that You give us, and walk in total agreement as to how it is to be dispensed. I pray that we will learn to live free if burdensome debt. Where we have not be been wise, bring restoration and give us guidance. Show me how I can help increase our finances and not decrease them unwisely. Help us to remember that all we have belongs to You, and to be grateful for it.

I pray that (husband's name) will find it easy to give to You and to others as You have instructed it in Your Word. Give him wisdom to handle money wisely. Help him make good decisions as to how he spends. Show him how to plan for the future. I pray that he will find the perfect balance between spending needlessly and being miserly. May he always be paid well for the work he does, and may his money not be stolen, lost, devoured, destroyed, or wasted. Multiply it so that what he makes will go a long way. I pray that he will not be anxious about finances, but will seek Your kingdom first, knowing that as he does, we will have all we need. (Luke 12:31)

Luke 12:29-31
Ecclesiastes 5:19
Phillipians 4:19
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Please add Wen to the list.

Thanks.

S&C

Could you please keep me in prayer. Just heard from my atty that H and I will be appearing in court on 25/10 for non payment of c/s. H is very angry that I could take such a step against him.

Atty is also pushing for Dv hearing on same day. To date there has been no negotiations regarding Dv settlement, now H wants advocates to decide on a fair settlement.

I was prepared for the c/s court hearing but not for the dv hearing.

H is currently on business in NY alone. I'm praying for his protection and for him to reflect on out sitch.

God Bless

Dearest Cajunky
I would like to be added to your prayer list
my ex and I are right at the beginning of
restoring whatever we could.
thanks
with much faith and hope

Cajunky, please add Nitehawk to the prayer group.
I do pray for WW and God's guidance almost daily.
Went this past Sunday to check out a church close to my house. I guess I am a little more traditional when it comes to church services. This one was kind of strange and freaked me out.I left after 45 minutes.I guess I'll keep searching for guidance but in the meantime I will keep praying at home.

absurd....welcome to the prayer group. Are you divorced? That is great news that you are going to try and restore your marriage. With Gods hand you can do it.

Nitehawk....Welcome to the group. Finding a church is very important but it has to be one that meets your needs. Sometimes it may not be exactly what we are looking for but if it meets some of our basic needs then maybe we can adapt to some of the other stuff.

Love in Christ
cajunky