what is anyone's opinion on : If we do reconcile, should we keep the same rings or will they be a reminder of our current relationship? Should I buy new rings for new promises? Also, she is catholic. At the time we did not get married in the catholic church. If we reconcile should we immediately get re-married in catholic chiurch. Not only is she catholic but so are all her relation.She has always wanted me to become catholic and I would for her, but I never got around to it. Should I take the RCIA classes and do you think she would notice this as a positive change in me and for our marriage? Or will she think of it as "manipulation"? It would definitely be a benefit for both, wouldn't it?
Appreciate any response.

She has always wanted me to become catholic and I would for her, but I never got around to it.
Don't change religions because "she wants you to." Do it because you agree with the church doctrine, practices & beliefs. If you don't, you are lying to God, yourself, your wife & the church. Blasphemy perhaps?

If it is the "religion" for you, why haven't you done it before?

It would definitely be a benefit for both, wouldn't it? Appreciate any response.
What would the "benefit" be? If you don't do it FOR YOU only, you would eventually hold it against her.

Let's say you do get back together and you convert. Later you guys end up divorced. Would you say, "I changed religions for you!!!"

If we reconcile should we immediately get re-married in catholic chiurch.
Depends on what you mean by "reconcile" & "immediately."
IF you reconcile, you need to discuss (LOTS & LOTS & LOTS & then some more) everything about what happened BEFORE you get (re)married in the church. After all, a ceremony is not going to fix the relationship.

Chris,
Your right I have to do it for me. I was a Methodis on Sunday's Only when I met Judy. I have gone to church with her over the last 7 years. I have not-been the christian person I should be. This experience has made me take notice that my spirit has been void, allowing satan in. I am working on regaining my spirit day by day. I know I need to act more like Christ. How could I go wrong then? I can't. I am human and I do make mistakes. I have acknowledged them and taken responsibility. I have sinned and asked forgiveness. What more can I do?

I started RCIA classes to convert 1 1/2 years ago, but at the time I had a new business and was newly elected to the city council. Trying to do everything I took the business and civic duties over my family and Christ. I will never make that mistake again. My wife really wanted me to convert only if I wanted to. She, like me, do not always agree everything in the Catholic faith. I will take RCIA classes regardless if we stay together or not because I do want to. I am comfortable within the Catholic Church.

I know the reconciliation process will take time.....I have to be patient. I would not want to get back together to soon, before everything is resolved. I would like to get re-married in the Catholic church....I know that was her dream, but I have to get unullment from 1st wife, but she will agree to that if needed.

I appreciate your input on my subjects.

Alan

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by AlanArthur:
<strong>I have sinned and asked forgiveness. What more can I do?

She, like me, do not always agree everything in the Catholic faith. I will take RCIA classes regardless if we stay together or not because I do want to. I am comfortable within the Catholic Church.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I just wanted to congratulate you on putting your marriage back together, and I'm happy to hear that you wish to join the Catholic Church. I am a Catholic convert myself, my H was born and raised a Catholic.

But I just wanted to offer some advice from my own experience. I often hear people commenting that they disagree with certain teachings of the Church, and that's where it stays. Meaning that they don't pursue a greater understanding of WHY the Church teaches what it does - by reading books and checking out Catholic websites, and asking questions of their priests, etc.

Many, many, many Catholics are ignorant of the teachings of the Church, in fact many are of the viewpoint that the Church changed radically in it's doctrine and dogma following Vatican II. While some culture things changed, the doctrine has remained intact.

Bottom line, do yourself a favor and begin to seriously study the Catholic Church. Read about it's history and tradition and please, DO NOT rely on the volunteers of your local RCIA to inform you completely of what you need to know. There is a lot of misinformation that goes on in our parishes nowadays, sometimes even perpetuated by the priests' themselves, who've been more informed by our modern, secular culture, than the teachings of the Church.

God Bless You and Your Marriage <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Mrs Sadler