Getting ready to have my friday nite sushi delivery coming. Was enjoying a glass of merlot while being the domestic goddess I am, folding laundry and vacuuming up, while I got an IM from Austin. WAs still online but forgot.

Anyway, he is in FL at the beach with our son. State statue reads that when child is involved in divorce proceedings, any attempt at taking a child out of state must be ok'd by both parents. But in legal hearing/temporary judgement, I am the primary custodial parent. AUSTIN DID NOT ASK ME IF HE COULD GO. INSTEAD IM'S ME AND SAYS THEY ARE ALREADY THERE. BEEN THERE FOR A DAY. He took him there just after picking him up from school yesterday. IF I DID THIS, HE'D GO NUTS. When I went and took son for a few nice days at the beach within our state, Austin still grilled me. Wanted to know where we were staying, etc, who was going. I get none of this information. Plus he says after I tell him that he is supposed to inform me of this for permission BEFORE HE LEAVES ON TRIP WITH SON, he says in IM that "THIS IS WHAT THE IM IS FOR". He then goes on to say that he hopes I am having a nice weekend. And why are you at home...ARrrrrrrrgh.

The rules are just too much for him. The law is far too below him. He is immune to it all. He doesn't believe they apply to him ever. Beginning to really re-think the sociopath thing b/c they do not believe that any rule or law is applicable in their lives. That they can just go and move about society doing as they please, hurting others at will.

What would you guys do? I am making a note of this in my daytimer. Do I notify my attorney? I am sick of this legal arrogance on his behalf. It is actually more than just legal arrogance. He simply disrespects me as both a wife and mother. It is nauseating. I am going upstairs to wait for sushi and drink some merlot to wind down and de stress.

He is always up to something. Some kind of drama each week. He cannot leave alone. He has to rock the boat somehow. I am glad he is enjoying time with son at beach. WHAT AM WONDERING IS WHY THE SECRECY? IS MS. MONKEY THERE WITH HIM? WHAT IS THIS CLOAK AND DAGGER BIT REGARDING THE TRIP? I think he is not alone or he would have already come out and told me where they are, and who is with them.

I hope I am over reacting to just the part about who/where thing. But I am angry regarding the blatant disrespect I endure from this man. Please pray hard for him tonight. Pray God speaks thru our son and breaks through his hardened heart. I am praying God brings him to his knees somehow. Maybe if he spends quality time with our son and is alo ne this can happen. But not if that thing, ms. monkey is there.

Sorry for this vent, but he has been pushing me and pushing me every week for the last two years now. I don't even know why he does it anymore. It is so unbelievable. I do not even want to hurt him. So why does he go to these great lengths to disrespect me always? I don't get it. He is gone. He doesn't have to see me. I am in plan B and don't see him or speak anyway. I don't get it. He keeps on trying somehow to get to me. Why why why?????????

Guess the fog is so strong around him. It is the legal thing that is so bad. When I went out of town two months ago to my sister's house, he freaked out and kept calling my cell phone. He thought I was visiting some guy? I sure would like to know who...And had the police call me very late in the morning that night saying that they received a call about my safety and welfare from him. He is wacked. I just don't get it.

He doesn't want the Marraige. He doesn't want to change yet. He tries, but then lashes out verbally and violently (not in person) at me. I raise my hands up. Is he trying deliberately to violate the plan B somehow? Trying to get me to react to him somehow? I do not get his actions. He is just trying and trying me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Forgot to add that he will be in violation of temporary agreement if he is with ms. monkeyho in front of son.

Peachy -

Yes, my Ex pulled the very same thing on me - I asked him to tell me if he takes the kids out of state - he told me that he had no plans to do so - on Friday and Saturday - on Sunday, I get a call from ANOTHER STATE saying "you wanted me to let you know if I was taking the kids out of state."

He also said that by the way my phone doesn't work, and there is no way to get in touch with me and he wouldn't tell me where he was with the kids...............

We were still married, but divorce proceedings had be instituted.

I'd see if your attorney can do anything about this.

If you don't put your foot down now he'll walk all over you ----- I know from experience unfortunately.

Hang in there. K

What is the deal with that famous line "Why are you at home" or why aren't you out???? My ex says that every time he gets ahold of me when he has the kids on a weekend!!

Guess it is just being plain nosey, who knows???? Why does he care one way or another if i am home or not!!! Maybe a little jealousy too.

When I was in elementary school and somebody would aske me a question that was not their business, I would answer. "Nunya". They'd say what? and I'd say nunya business.

I don't get it. Just basially shaking my head tonight. Fog is really deep in FL. Must be from that tropical storm. Causing lots of fog to roll in.

He doesn't want the M, but he doesn't want anybody to want me either. But he will have to give that mindset up as soon as the d is done. Face the music. I'd love and do pray for change, but that is going to come from him. And maybe that just won't happen and God will give me someone else in the end.

Hello, NPIGA! On your Instant Messenger, there is a folder of 'received files' in that folder are every IM chat you've ever had on it, it is in a text file.
Print it out and take it to your Lawyer. This is legal evidence that Mr. Moron has just VIOLATED the Court Order. If at all possible, I would get your Lawyer to file a Motion against him and see about could you get FULL Custody of your child, if you haven't already. Perhaps get it where he can only pick up your child(ren) in the presence of A Friend Of The Court, or some other court-appointed respresentative. Perhaps even get it fixed where he can't even have visitation, except at some neutral place in town with both of you in attandance or with a Court Representative in attendance. I don't know a lot about the legal system (other than that it sux) but there are laws and ways to get lawbreakers. Don't hesitate on this one, please. One way or another, he's going to find out that you just don't mess with a woman!!
Hope this helps some, but please, see that lawyer!
Harold

DJTB:

Looked under IM. No file received thing. Perused it really good. Where is it located again? I have aol. Is that the problem?

Thanks for your help. You are a wise late night owl...

Love and hugs.
J.