wwhen 2 people truly love each other but they just can't seem to get it together, when do you reach that point where enough is ENOUGH!!!!??? please read the bottom tag to get a picture of what i meant when i said, "can't seem to get it together..... what would you do in my shoes? and why? thanks, peace tim

Hi Tim! Man, you are right - one hard choice here. In your case, I believe you 'got it together' it's your WW that does NOT have it together!! Preggo with OM child, man, that is a hard call. I think IMHO the hardest choice would be to accept the child, knowing where it came from.
Now from a logical standpoint - I wouldn't know where to begin from an emotional one.
Take your wife back - AFTER a NO CONTACT LETTER.
Call it 'snooping' whatever, but keep tabs on her. The death of an affair is hard emotionally on the cheaters.
You could adopt the baby as your own, or give it up for adoption, this is such a hard choice - I mean, there are so many ways to look at it. A baby is a baby, and babies are precious. Could you adopt the baby as your own and somehow overlook or get over the fact of who the baby's father is?
How is your wife reacting over being pregnant with the baby? Would she be willing to keep it and adopt it with you? Have you gotten into Marriage Counseling yet?
I know there is so much more that needs to be said, but I'm only one Poster here, and I know there are lots of others who will have different views and suggestions than mine.
You're being prayed for, you, your wife, and the baby.
Please keep us posted and let us know how things are working out for the three of you.
May the Good Lord bless all of you, Harold