Hi All
My wife wants me to change the scheduled days of my custody, so she can take our daughter to a theme park with the OM. I know my daughter would love to go, But their my days to have her. and I have plans. I dont want my daughter any where near the OM, its bad enough he is living with my wife, I cant change that, but I can prevent any extra time, since he is a drug user.should I disapoint my daughter and not let her go or should i stick to my principles and not let her near the druggy.

Does your child know about the trip? Did she know first, or did you? It is my opinion that all changes to the schedule and reasons why should be discussed first between parents, so that if you have to say no, the child need not be disappointed needlessly.

To this end I would say no, this time, because you have already made plans for your time with your child.

As for future times spent with druggie OM, I believe you could get an order to prevent him being around your child.

Love and light,

Jacky

You should get yourself a pit bull attorney to fight to attain for you sole custody of your D and for supervised visits by your W.

Do you actually think for one minute if the roles were reversed that your W would tolerate the kind of situation? Women have more guts than men when it comes to fighting for what they beleive in, in court.

You are doing your D a disservice by allowing her to be exposed to such a dangerous individual. I pray that God gives you the strength to fight for her right to a safe environment to grow in.

OM is living with your wife? Or your xw?

D lives with her too?

The man is a habitual drug user?

I don't thinks so! Call attorney!!!

Meanwhile, wife can make plans to go a different weekend. Amusement parks are usually open more than one weekend. Try to save your schedule change requests for things with only limited availability.

Thanks for the responses
My wife is in denial about the OM drug use he does it behind her back, her friends have informed me of this, my daughter has been told by my wife that I wont let her go so now Im the bad guy, also yes she is my wife she wants a divorce but has not yet filed, he moved in about 4 days after i left for a temporary seperation, I dont know about the amount of use or if he is habitual, but he was homeless and living in his truck befor my wife took him in, she did the same to me 13 years ago during her first divorce i wasnt homeless but was living with my parents, she has a thing about helping people that are worse off then her so she feels better about herself. I still love my wife but o dont like what she is doing to herself and our daughter,her first divorce effected her first 2 kids, her son is in a camp for youthful offenders and her daughter is on probation for drugs and check fraud. her daughter is also living ther with 3 or 4 friends in the garage, a 2 bedroom house with 6 7 people, not a good situation for a 7 yr old girl to be in, i need to hire an private investigator and lawyer to get the proof i need but i dont have alot of money she screwed up our checking account and ruined our credit befor this all came about
yes im venting
thanks for you advice to

Are you me??
sounds so familiar