Well, I'm happy to say that I'm doing very well. I am dating again, and I'm enjoying the heck out of it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> There are lots of nice ladies out there that have shown me just how bad my marriage and WW really were. At first when we separated, I kinda disliked all women and thought that I was a fool. Now I realize that I just got a bad apple, and the marriage shouldn't have happened in the first place with her. I'm not in any committments, and don't plan on it anytime soon. Just taking some time to enjoy single life again. Hanging out with buddies and family a lot, too.

Just wanted to let you guys (and gals) know that there is light at the end of the tunnel no matter how bad you think it is. Starting over is not as bad as it seems, trust me. The empty spot in your heart may not ever go away, but it sure does shrink a lot when you realize there's a whole lot of goodness out there that you've been missing.

Great to hear from you NK.

It's great that you're socializing and as long as you don't get crazy formalizing a new R and try to REALLY know the women you date as PEOPLE then you should be ok.

And yes your words about being light at the end of the tunnel are very true.

Don't be a stranger and keep us updated.

nk,

how did you manage to get your divorce finalized in 60 days, so quickly?

Good 2 hear this, nk!

Please take care, and definitely don't stop learning! Make sure that any future Rs are rewarding ones for both of you!

I wish you and your family all the best,

Utterly,

In TX, there's a 60 day waiting period. My lawyers filed the papers, wife signed a waiver of citation form (meaning she didn't have to be served or show up in court), and on the 61st day, I showed up at the courthouse, filled out some forms and got a DV in 5 minutes. It's almost too easy, but I had a good lawyer who happens to be a family friend. I was tired of fighting for her, so I let her go. Didn't want her to get a chance to clean me out, so I filed first.

I don't regret doing it that quickly. I'm starting to see her differently now, and all our good times seem very small and insignificant now.

hello nasakid,

60 days huh? I'm from Texas too, so that's good to know.

I hope to not get divorced, but I feel the need to protect myself, and plan ahead, so for now I'm paying off credit cards & closing them, opening my own bank account (no money in it, but available in case I need to protect my money), etc...

I'm sorry your R didn't work out. Good luck.

UtterlyConfused posted:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NK, how did you manage to get your divorce finalized in 60 days, so quickly? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here in Kentucky you just have to be separated 60 days. Separated meaning no cohabitation.

So...in essence...If you and your spouse refrain from SF for 60 days, you can theoretically have the DV the same day!

However, this is rare because of overloaded court dockets. But...that IS the law here.

Boo

Nasa - so you are enjoying your single life. I think it is harder for a woman, with being a single mother, taking less pay with equal jobs, men use women, car dealers, etc. Women are cautious for good reasons, they are taken for the weaker sex.

How do you approach a woman that you like, and the statement of yes you are divorced? What do you say, and how do you go about it?

Just curious, I am having a time within myself to explain my situation. After 24 years of marriage, and SNL being who he is now, I just can't explain. I have been asked, and said talk to SNL. I stated, Believe what you want, and leave me be. Told them I am hurting too much, and want to get a hold on life.

Do you see your wife fairly, or do you see her through eyes of anger? Just wondering. I know most divorces turn ugly, but your was so short. I filed in April (because the last straw happened), and we are still going through the process. SNL procrastinated on so much stuff, caused me to spend more money on discovery, because he held info back, and said to my lawyer he doesn't have to explain anything, and doesn't have to do anything the lawyer says. Didn't you have assets to divide, finances, etc? Seems so unreal that yours was done in 60 days.

Be careful, and don't move into anything serious. Have a good time, and enjoy life, but remember, that God is with us everysecond of our life. Keep God in yourheart.

cry,

It's pretty easy for me to approach women b/c I don't have kids yet, and I am basically getting a fresh start. The women I am seeing now are either older or the same age, and none of them have kids either, but they want them. I am just being myself and telling them limited things about what I've been thru and what I've learned. I think my confidence is a big key to being successful in dating. Not cocky, but just knowing myself very well.

-NK

nk:

But like cry said, take it slow, nk. Slower than you are, I would add.

take care,